From Mourning to Morning: A Comprehensive Guide to Mourning, Grieving, and Bereavement
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Simeon Schreiber
Rabbi Simeon Schreiber, Senior Staff Chaplain at Mount Sinai Medical Center in Miami Beach, has translated his many years of experience into highly effective techniques for visiting hospital patients, the homebound elderly, and bereaved families. These principles, which he teaches in diverse seminars, are now available to you in this friendly, down-to-earth manual. A Caring Presence contains surprising suggestions on what to say and what not to say; what to do and what not to do. Throughout the book, Rabbi Schreiber helps you develop the sensitivity and expertise to be an adept caring presence when others need you most.
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From Mourning to Morning - Simeon Schreiber
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From Mourning
to Morning
A comprehensive guide to
mourning, grieving, and bereavement
with special emphasis on the Shiva Call
RABBI Simeon Schreiber
Urim Publications
Jerusalem • New York
Ktav Publishing
From Mourning to Morning: A Comprehensive Guide to Mourning, Grieving, and Bereavement, with Special Emphasis on the Shiva Call
Copyright © 2018, 2016 by Rabbi Simeon Schreiber
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The Library of Congress has catalogued the printed edition as follows:
Names: Schreiber, Simeon, author.
Title: From mourning to morning : a comprehensive guide to mourning, grieving, and bereavement : with special emphasis on the shiva call / Rabbi Simeon Schreiber.
Description: Brooklyn, New York : Urim Publications ; Jerusalem : Ktav Publishing, [2016]
Identifiers: LCCN 2016032578 | ISBN 9789655242614 (pbk. : alk. paper)
Subjects: LCSH: Jewish mourning customs. | Shivah (Jewish mourning custom) | Bereavement–Religious aspects–Judaism.
Classification: LCC BM712 .S37 2016 | DDC 296.4/45–dc23 LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2016032578
With Sincere Gratitude
and Appreciation
Go out and seek the type of person to whom one should cling.
Rabbi Eliezer says, One who possesses a good eye.
Rabbi Yehoshua says, One who is a good friend.
Rabbi Yossi says, One who is a good neighbor.
Rabbi Elazar says, One who possesses a good heart.
Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakai says, It is the words of Rabbi Elazar that I prefer, for one who possesses a good heart will incorporate all of the other qualities as well.
Excerpted from Pirkei Avot (Ethics of our Fathers),
Chapter 2, Mishna 14
In grateful appreciation to the good-hearted supporters whose confidence, trust and unselfish generosity made the publication of
From Mourning to Morning a reality.
Anonymous
Abraham Borg
Bella and Stephen Brenner
Eltes Family
Judy and Fred Farbman
Suri and Bert Fried
Etella and Haim Marcovici
Sandy and Jerry Seligsohn
Targum Shlishi,
a Raquel and Aryeh Rubin Foundation
Visiting Chaplain Services
Joni and George White
Contents
Preface
Introduction
Prior to Death
Regrets: Could’ve . . . Should’ve . . . Would’ve . . .
Why Has God Forsaken Me?
The Pre-Mourning Period
At the Moment of Death
Before the Shiva Begins
The Good Earth
The Funeral
The Meal of Recovery and Condolence
Grieving and Shiva
Myths about Grieving
The Shiva Call
Peter and Helene’s Shiva Call
A Closer Look at Peter and Helene’s
Shiva Visit
Shiva Visit Guidelines
The Do’s and Don’ts of a Proper Shiva Call
Suggested Topics of Conversation at a Shiva Call
The Post-Shiva Period
Beyond Shiva
The Sheloshim, or Thirty-Day Period of Mourning
The Year of Mourning
Afterword
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Preface
My father died more than fifteen years ago. My experience of sitting Shiva for him following his burial is embedded in my mind. There was one individual in particular whose visit to me was so memorable that it unwittingly provided the catalyst for me to become more involved and knowledgeable about the proper protocols and guidelines for paying a Shiva call. She sat in front of me and began recounting recollections of our families’ relationship that spanned many decades. No detail was omitted throughout her lengthy recitation. She continued on with a year-by-year accounting — for a period of time which seemed to stretch unto eternity.
I remember turning to my brother, who was sitting next to me, and quietly remarking that we would probably die ourselves before she finished! When her visit finally concluded, I vowed to myself that I would never subject other mourners to such behavior and that perhaps someday I would write a book on what an effective Shiva call should be.
Now, years later, after writing my first book, A Caring Presence – Bringing the Gift of Hope, Comfort and Courage, and remembering the effort it took, I should have been discouraged from even thinking about a second attempt at authorship. Unless one is naturally gifted and able to express ideas, thoughts and emotions easily, writing a book — even on a topic with which one is familiar — is a stressful endeavor. So why did I choose to persevere and accept the challenge of a second book?
In my role as Rabbi and Senior Staff Chaplain at Mount Sinai Medical Center in Miami Beach, Florida, I am confronted almost daily by patients and their families seeking advice on how to deal with serious illness, life-threatening conditions, and often the possibility of imminent death. Dealing with these issues over the past decade, I believe I have acquired a certain insight, knowledge and understanding of how to properly respond to these difficult situations. Often I am asked to lecture to groups or serve as a panelist to offer my advice and perspective on these delicate and sensitive issues.
To be regarded as an expert by one’s colleagues and peers is certainly a heady accolade. So when the suggestion was made that I convert my oral lectures into book