Laughing in the Rain: Self-Care for the Storms of Life
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Do you need to reduce stress in your life?
Need a laugh?
Are you feeling mired in parental guilt?
This book will show you how to laugh in the rain, even if your umbrella has holes!
Hillary Saffran
Hillary Saffran resides in Palmer, Alaska. She has worked in social services for many years and is involved in many organizations in her community. She is also an actress, voice - over artist, entertainer and speaker. She uses comedy, ventriloquism, singing and audience participation in her presentations. She began her entertainment career as a birthday party clown over 20 years ago, entertaining all ages from 2-102. She has never told anyone to read her lips.
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Laughing in the Rain - Hillary Saffran
Copyright © 2013 Hillary Saffran.
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Laughing in the Rain – Self-Care for the Storms of Life
is a work of fiction. Names and characters are a product of the author’s imagination. Any resemblance to actual events or persons, living or dead, is coincidental.
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ISBN: 978-1-4525-8734-9 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4525-8733-2 (e)
Balboa Press rev. date: 02/12/2014
CONTENTS
PREFACE
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INTRODUCTION
1 PARENTING
2 FAMILY LIFE
3 RELATIONSHIPS
4 PREGNANCY
5 AGING
6 WORK
7 DIETING
8 HEALTH
9 WEATHER
10 HOMEOWNERSHIP AND RENTING STRESS
11 ENTERTAINMENT AND TECHNOLOGY
12 ECONOMIC STRESS
13 EDUCATION
14 LANGUAGE CONFUSION
15 DRIVING AND VEHICLE STRESS
16 SHAMELESS PROMOTION PAGE
EPILOGUE
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
photo1.JPGA Merry Heart Does Good Like a Medicine
– Proverbs 17:22
DEDICATION
Dedicated to my dear friend J(AG), who understands Mommy Hell but has kept her heart and sense of humor . . . with much panache . . . I’m just sayin’
Also dedicated to my dear friend Suzanna, thanks for all of the encouragement, clothes & clown things you’ve given me over the years!
Dedicated to all others who have had significant challenges in life and need a lift (is that all of humanity?)
Especially dedicated to my children
Avi, Rachel & Shoshana
In memory of my mother Florence Saffran
My grandmother Ruth Schwartz
and my cousin Andrea Nadel, who all left this world too soon . . .
. . . To be in the hearts of those who live is not to die . . .
from A Stone for Danny Fisher
By Harold Robbins
PREFACE
Why did I write this book? Probably for the same reason that you are reading this – it was a form of self-care.
I experienced many joys, but also difficulties while parenting my children – especially as teenagers. I know others who have had their parenting challenges as well. I raised my three children mostly as a single mom.
At the writing of this book, my youngest child was preparing to graduate high school. I was about to become an empty nester, and I found myself reflecting quite a bit about the last 26 years of parenting.
I was also burdened by a cumbersome load of regret that I wasn’t the person 20 years ago that I am now. I wanted to go back in time to get a second chance at parenting my children again when they were young.
I realized that we can’t go back for a do over
. We can only go forward. I wondered if there were other parents out there who felt the same way.
Nevertheless, having used humor in the past as a coping skill, I wrote this book for me, and for others who might need a lift in various aspects of their lives, whether going through job stress, parenting angst, relationship troubles, or the like.
At times I’ve wanted to hide my head in the sand, or the comfort of my bed. Other times I envisioned myself Laughing in the Rain as Self-Care for the Storms of Life
. Hopefully, some humor along the way can prevent us from torturing ourselves by constantly should having
.
Perhaps I should have stopped should having years ago!
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Forty eight stress busters used in this book are from the Bonus Pullout of 75 Best Stress Busters of the Woman’s Day 75th Anniversary Special edition. Reprinted by Permission of Woman’s Day. Published by Hearst Communications, Inc.
Much gratitude to Grace Virginia Kari – photographer extraordinaire. Also thanks to Nan Potts – photographer of the cover photo. You shower me with kindness and friendship . . . pun intended!
Much appreciation for the wonderful artwork of Rainy Hastings. Check out the amazing music of their band Gerygone & Twig
Also appreciation for the drawings of Andree LaFrance & Shoshana Saffran
To Joe Sabah, who shares so much of himself through his courses and groups for speakers and writers. Joe – you truly are singing the song you came to sing
To my dear friend Carol Kincaid for sharing your stories, your heartaches and your laughter. Your feedback was the boost that I needed to complete this project
To Mark Henry for the encouraging gift of Bird by Bird
. . . no, you!
To all of my Toastmaster friends in Colorado
To Don Loyd and Tim Galloway who both encouraged me to write a book
To Mare App and all of the ladies in the Conscious Connections Group
To John Klug and the Denver Theatre Sports Improvisation group
To Brook and Sara Pauquette – supportive friends that became family – (you know)!
To all of my Valley Arts Alliance friends, especially Carmen Summerfield for encouragement of my show Party of One with Friends
To VPA for the shows I’ve been a part of and the wonderful people I’ve met
To the Matsu String Orchestra and Matsu Youth Orchestra for the joy and healing that making music brings, especially for me and my daughter
To all of my friends and fellow ventriloquists that I’ve met at Vent Haven, especially in memory of Clinton Detweiler, a legend in the field & a friend to many
To Kenny Fine and Philly Mendelson of Blue Moon Talent
To clowns everywhere who brighten up lives young and old, & Colorado Clowns
To April and Kathy of DFS & Nancy & Jackie of CODI, sweet and wise women who brighten lives and work in agencies of acronyms
To Big Mitch, the best vocal coach ever!
To all of my coworker friends in case management, workforce centers and social services
To all of the clients I’ve had and the stories I’ve heard . . .
And to all of my dear friends in Alaska and the Lower 48 . . . this is for you
Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass . . . it’s about learning to dance in the rain
- Vivian Greene
INTRODUCTION
Many years ago while going through many of life’s turmoil’s I noticed that I was still able to laugh and enjoy things, even if it was in small snippets. Although at times I felt that my tear ducts had stretch marks, I came to the realization that I had some healthy coping skills that I wanted to share with others.
I’ve worked in the human services field as a Workforce Development Specialist in a large county job center. I assisted over 56,000 unemployed people during the darkest time of the recession with employment readiness and services. I’ve also worked as an employment advocate, where I case managed public assistance clients that dealt with tragedy on a daily basis.
These jobs, as well as many other fields have high degrees of stress associated with them. Many employees attend stress management workshops as part of their training, especially in dealing with difficult clients.
Many stress management techniques are not new to the general public. Hopefully my interpretation on many of them will bring a smile to your face, and an encouraging reminder that you are not alone.
So sit down, grab a cup of your favorite beverage, kick your shoes off, and enjoy the next couple of hours as you read about stress reducing techniques that have wonderful benefits. Oh, please note – stressed
spelled backwards is desserts
. Yum!
Raising kids is part joy and part guerrilla warfare.
- Ed Asner
1
PARENTING
My son Freddie Krueger has been acting up lately. I’m considering a therapeutic foster home but no one will take him.
The mother speaking must have been in her early thirties. Her southern accent drawled on, like syrup slithering down pancakes at a truck stop in Dixieland. I looked at my friend Jamey in the parents support group out of the corner of my eye. I tried to focus on what the mother was saying, but found myself becoming distracted by the polka dots on her blouse, and began playing tic tac toe in my head. My self-esteem plummeted as I consistently lost to three vertical buttons. I told Jamey that I was no match for a gingham version of Saturday Night Fever.
Jamey and I tried hard to control our snickers, because we really, really wanted to be attentive and polite. The truth is, if we really took to heart what the woman was saying, we’d think of our own pain, and might not stop crying for a long, long time.
Have you experienced any form of parental stress? I wanted this chapter to be universal; otherwise it would have been titled Mommy Hell, because I’m a mom. However, if you’re a father, a grandparent raising a child, a foster parent or guardian, a relative raising a child, or any combination of the above, and if, for whatever reason, you’re experiencing
Spawn Gone Wrong
– this chapter is