A Journey of Love and Miracles: Traveling Through Cancer with the Patient and the Caregiver
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Ken and Pat were in their sixties when they discovered each other on an online dating site. Each was looking for a friend to spend some time with; they could not imagine the events they would come to experience together as they began their relationship. In A Journey of Love and Miracles, they tell the story of how they met and got engaged, and how Pats cancer diagnosis changed the course of their love affair and their lives. This is a story of faith, love, and miracles that should be shared with others who face cancer, its prognosis, treatment, and the aftermath.
They have chosen to share their journey through years of cancer diagnosis and treatment to provide hope and help to cancer patients and their families. Since the beginning of their time together, they have been faced with the insidious disease of cancer. Their story is proof that life can go on, full of love and friendship. For patients, families, and friends, the Birts share numerous helpful suggestions that have grown out of their journey together.
In A Journey of Love and Miracles, Ken and Pat Birt recall their inspiring life experiences, complete with fears and difficult decisions and tempered with love, support, joy, and miracles.
Ken Birt
Ken and Pat Birt retired to Venice, Florida, in 2011. Pat had a career in the executive offices of a major medical facility after working in an entrepreneurial start-up of a resort community. Ken was ordained a United Methodist clergyman in 1978. His last ministerial appointment was in Oak Ridge, Tennessee.
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A Journey of Love and Miracles - Ken Birt
Copyright © 2012 by Ken and Pat Birt
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ISBN: 978-1-4759-4266-8 (sc)
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iUniverse rev. date: 08/07/2012
Contents
Introduction
1:A Beginning of the Journey – Bringing Two Together
2:Run Like Hell – It’s Terminal
3:Looking for a New Home Brought New Friends
4:The Wedding of Beautiful Memories for a Scared Couple
5:More Surgery, More Tumors, Family Tension and Important Decisions
6:Time to Make Legal Decisions – Time to Live Life
7:Hair by Chemo and Now Radiation
8:Houston, It’s a Go!
9:A New Home in Paradise
10:Good News and Now a Honeymoon Cruise
11:Medical Appointments Can Go Awry
12:The Impossible Can Be Possible
13:The Journey Continues but Never Give Up!
Dedication
This book is dedicated to John and Dorothy Schneider, Pat’s parents, who took the journey, and Sarah Jacobs, our niece, a fellow-traveler on the cancer journey. Also, we include those who have or will travel with us.
This book chronicles the journey of a woman and her caregiver as they face the reality of advanced colorectal cancer head on. There is only so much control physicians and modern medicine have – the sheer will and commitment of a patient plays a large role in the outcome. Pat Birt is evidence of how far determination and strength can take you against the evils of cancer. She never backed down, even when she was given a grave prognosis, and her strict adherence to the recommendations made by her doctors has led to her fantastic state of health. The authors beautifully detail the result of collaboration between a willing patient, a loving caregiver and a multidisciplinary cancer center. While this is an evolving journey, Pat remains an example of the power of love, support and faith.
Dr. Rachna T. Shroff
Assistant Professor, Department of Gastrointestinal (GI) Medical Oncology, Division of Cancer Medicine, The University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center, Houston, TX
Introduction
Some have said this is a story of faith, love and miracles that should be shared with others who face cancer, its prognosis, treatment and aftermath.
But, how does one convey to the cancer patient, primary caregiver, families and friends the experiences of the past twenty-eight months? That is the challenge confronting the authors in writing this book. Will experiences of love and miracles speak to those persons on the cancer journey? Will the things learned by fellow-travelers on the journey be of help? The sole motivation for writing of A Journey of Love and Miracles: Traveling through Cancer with the Patient and the Caregiver is to offer hope and support to fellow-travelers. If this book helps just one person, it will have been worth the efforts put forth.
This book is the journey of one couple, complete with fears and difficult decisions but also complete with love, support, joy and miracles. It is chronological and a very personal collection of memories. Sharing the past twenty-eight months, the couple’s entire life together, shows what can be accomplished with love for one another and the love of friends and most of all, the love of God. It is hoped that the forty-six suggestions learned and shared in this book will speak to the reader.
It is the honest prayer of the authors that whether a cancer patient or a support person, all will face this insidious disease with hope and courage, that all readers find within this book something that will give the reader the strength to say, I will never give up!
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A Beginning of the Journey – Bringing Two Together
Ken Birt had moved to Independence, Missouri, leaving his previous home in Oak Ridge, Tennessee, to be near his sister, Barbara, and her extended family. He was recovering from a series of life-changing events. He had retired, attempted adjustment to not working and saw the end of a ten year relationship. And, little did Ken know that his life would be full of more changes and even miracles.
Ken found living alone in a new city, in a new state, in a new region of the country was not all he had hoped for. Without friends and with family members who had their own lives and priorities, he quickly became lonely. Enter, Match.com. Ken’s profile on the dating site was simple. He emphasized he was looking for friends and was not a romantic relationship. And, most important, the friends had to live within twenty to thirty miles of Independence.
Pat Baker had also come out of a failed relationship. She lived in Poplar Bluff, Missouri, in the far southeast corner of the State. She worked as Administrative Assistant to the Chief Financial Officer of the regional hospital in Poplar Bluff. She was not a regular
on match.com. However, on one lonely evening in October, 2009, Pat was looking at members of Match.com who were residents of Missouri and came across Ken’s picture and profile. She was drawn to his pink golf shirt (Pat’s favorite color) and his smile. She wrote a short e-mail congratulating Ken on his smile and the thirty-four pound weight loss that he had mentioned in his profile. Ken received the e-mail and thought, "No one ever contacts me on match.com. What is this all about?
Ken’s Match.com Picture
Ken looked at Pat’s photo and her profile and responded to Pat in an e-mail, Where is Poplar Bluff, Missouri?
Regardless of the six hour distance between them, Ken looked at Pat’s picture and thought, She sure is cute.
So much for the twenty to thirty mile distance rule!
Pat’s Match.com Picture
Ken and Pat spent the remainder of October e-mailing and talking via Yahoo.com on a daily basis. Toward the end of the month, Ken began calling Pat and having lengthy conversations by phone. He learned about Pat’s occupation and Pat learned that Ken worked part time in the Leave No Child Behind Program
administered by a company called Achievia. Ken tutored groups of young elementary-aged children in Math and English and had recently become responsible for several schools, supervising the tutors assigned to those schools. As the days and weeks passed Ken decided, "I