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    Forgiving the Church: How to Release the Confusion and Hurt When the Church Abuses
    Forgiving the Church: How to Release the Confusion and Hurt When the Church Abuses
    Forgiving the Church: How to Release the Confusion and Hurt When the Church Abuses
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    Forgiving the Church: How to Release the Confusion and Hurt When the Church Abuses

    By Rev. Harrison Newhouse and Judy R. De Wit

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    How do I forgive the church? is an interesting question. Many ask it. Many cant answer it. Abuse by a church leader is horrendous and evil. It often goes outside of anything we ever thought or imagined a pastor or church leader could do. The very persons we thought we could trust betray by abusing.

    Are you familiar with what abuse in the context of the church looks like? Child sexual abuse, sexual assault, physical and emotional abuse, breaching confidentiality, undue influence, fraud, defamation, and clergy malpractice are some examples. When trust is betrayed because of wrongful behavior by a church leader, confusion, harm, and anger set in.

    Faced with the effects of abuse, a victim is torn about how to recover and heal. Sleepless nights, fears, anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, fatigue, low energy, and irritability are all common symptoms of abuse. Because of the abuse, relationship issues, fears of intimacy, family problems, and shame are thrust into the victims life and she struggles with how to handle the problems. Pair that up with the abuser being a church leader, and the entire process for recovery, healing, and forgiveness exceeds most peoples understanding. Life that was once simple and good now becomes something that is nearly impossible to handle.

    Forgiving the Church helps church leaders, church members, and faith communities understand what abuse looks like and how churches have a responsibility to help victims forgive. It provides stories and examples of how the church abuses and gives ideas for how to help victims begin the process of forgiveness. Although it is the victims responsibility to forgive, the church should take specific actions to help ensure a greater possibility that the victim can begin the forgiveness process.

    Church leaders, this book will help you understand abuse in the church and what you should do to help victims begin the process of forgiveness. Victims, this book will help you begin to understand how you can start the forgiveness process when youve been abused by the church.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateNov 22, 2011
    ISBN9781462059072
    Forgiving the Church: How to Release the Confusion and Hurt When the Church Abuses
    Author

    Rev. Harrison Newhouse

    Judy De Wit grew up near a small town in Northwest Iowa. She taught elementary education for fourteen years and currently works as a Marriage and Family Therapist in the Twin Cities Metro. On a volunteer basis, she advocates for victims of church leadership abuse and has received extensive training in the topic of abuse in the church by the Minnesota Council of Churches. She completed an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy, an MA in Theological Studies and recently completed a Leadership degree at Northwestern College in Roseville, Minnesota.

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