Conversations with Myself: Meditations Along the Path to Personal Mastership
By Rache Darwin
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These conversations occurred over a time span of 14 months in the midst of many solitary contemplative sessions, which opened Rache to receive instructive communications from these other "selves." The process, more than the particulars, demonstrates that we all possess a distinct, individual guiding voice and points the way to contact that innate wisdom and blaze our own path to self-understanding and mastery.
Rache Darwin
Rache Darwin is a writer, artist and musician residing in the northwest United States. To preserve anonymity, for personal reasons, “Rache Darwin” is this writer’s pen name.
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Conversations with Myself - Rache Darwin
© 2012 by Rache Darwin. All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.
Published by AuthorHouse 11/30/2012
ISBN: 978-1-4685-2791-9 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4685-2792-6 (e)
Because of the dynamic nature of the Internet, any web addresses or links contained in this book may have changed since publication and may no longer be valid. The views expressed in this work are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher, and the publisher hereby disclaims any responsibility for them.
Cover Art by Connie Janney
Contents
FOREWORD
PREFACE
THE SHOWER
THE POW-WOW
BEES AND KEYS
THE THREE ROCKS
BURNING OF THE BATS I
WHAT IS MY OWN WAY
Meditation
CONNECT THE DOTS
Meditation
THE OIL SPILL
PART OF A MINDFUL DAY
THE CROSSROADS
BURNING OF THE BATS II
GOOD
SOLILOQUY AFTER YOGA
HOW ARE WE DOING?
HUNGRY
WHAT IS GETTING IN THE WAY OF MY WRITING?
HUNGER II
VENTING
HUNGER III
IDENTITY
WHAT SPELLS RELIEF?
SECRETS
IRRELEVANCE
CONFUSION/DILEMMA
FEAR
WISE ATTENTION
LOVE
PAIN
CHOICE
WHAT MATTERS?
JUST
DESTRUCTION
A MEDITATION
STILLNESS
THE PLAIN
DRUGS
FUN
SAFE
PLAY
SANCTUARY
IT’S OKAY
WE ARE BREATHING
A SABBATH MEDITATION
THE ROAD NOT TAKEN
LET IT ALL GO
DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT
TO MY CHILD
BECOMING UNSTUCK
OBLIGATIONS
HANG ON
FENCES
OUTSIDE THE FENCE: EXPLORING THE NOTION OF FREEDOM
A FABLE
PROGRESS
TRUTH
ON NOT MEDITATING
LIFE ON THE MOON
MY WAY MEDITATION II
RESISTANCE
NUTSHELL
UNTITLED
IT’S OKAY II
IT DOESN’T MATTER
UNTITLED II
THE JOKE
SAFE PLACE II
GOOD DAY/BAD DAY
EYE OF THE STORM
EPILOGUE
Connie Janney Artist’s Statement
FOR NANCY
Come now, and let us reason together…
Isaiah 1:18
I am in the midst of darkness; I am in the midst of light—for out of darkness comes the light.
I am undergoing the most amazing process, to which all of the therapeutic processes so far undertaken were but a preamble.
I have arrived at the core of my pain, the ugly, roiling, murky heart of it.
I boil as macaroni in water, troubling, rising, falling, tumbling until done.
I am not yet done.
(written to a friend, 6/3/99)
FOREWORD
It has always seemed paradoxical to me, as a therapist, to be in the business of communicating and yet feel wholly inadequate to describe therapy, the work of accompanying people on their healing journey. Much better than I ever could, this patient artistically portrays her own recovery from an eating disorder, anxiety, and depression. When I received this manuscript, I could not put it down, because it so beautifully describes her journey, as well as the journey of many people I have worked with over 25 years… plus, my own. This book is not only the process of Rache’s recovery, but the consequence of many teachers and wise people who helped me heal, giving their gifts again to Rache and now to you, the reader. The wisdom is the same—Universal, I call it. And the work is the same: be quiet, listen, and we will hear from within our own inner Teacher.
The steps that Rache learned were Mindfulness Meditation Practice and Inner Child Visualizations, or Reparenting. These tools are a combination of traditional psychotherapy and Eastern spiritual disciplines.
The Mindfulness Meditation that Rache refers to here was taught under the heading of Stress Management, a term more palatable to insurance companies. I use it with 90% of my patients, from those with anxiety disorders, to those with addictions and depression. Rache had all three issues. Clients learn to quiet their overly busy minds through focusing on breath and yoga. This onepointedness helps the client learn to observe his or her thoughts and detach from the reaction patterns he or she has been run by for years. Mindfulness practice, a form of Buddhist meditation, grounds the practitioner in the moment, regardless of what is occurring. Such presence of mind in the moment—awareness—allows the practitioner to become aware of thought and automatic behavior patterns (reacting) and then consciously change the unproductive or self-defeating patters (ex.: author notices and stops a pattern to her compulsive eating.)
Reparenting, or Inner Child Therapy, was popularized in the mid-1980’s by John Bradshaw. As Bradshaw was introducing the world to the notion of an ego state akin to a child, I was learning a similar tool. My teacher taught me to relax, visualize an inner sanctuary, or safe place,
as Rache calls it throughout her writings. Step two is to ask clients to visualize seeing a child, themselves, at any age that comes to mind. This child represents their emotions, aliveness, and perhaps woundedness. Once familiar and comfortable with the child, I ask them to envision a teacher—a wise, higher self, a witnessing compassionate ego state to whom they can go for guidance, for answers. Few people have trouble or resist envisioning either of these ego states. Patients become truly healthy parents to themselves, compassionate and firm.
Through the combination of onepointedness meditation and innerchild/reparenting, clients become their own doctors, therapists, able to process their own questions, obstacles and hurdles. Most valuably, they learn to ride life’s pain versus block it, thus healing and moving forward (see Hang On,
4/9/99). Addictions result from the numbing of feelings. Recovery is the full experiencing of feelings. By being with their experience, patients learn to trust themselves and their process, and deep self-doubt melts. In its place, a grounded felt experience of trust flows in. True strength grows, and the fear of losing control fades (see Fences,
4/12/99).
Within each of us is a wise, compassionate knowing, which when given recognition, will guide us to joy, self-acceptance, forgiveness, and unity with nature, others and God. The goal of both techniques is to reconnect clients with compassion for self, and have them know the divinity within, God within, which is as close as a heartbeat. My job is to teach the tools to access it and hold the space for the individual’s process to unfold. This book is such a process, captured by a woman with literary talent and a deep passion to heal. Amid poetry, prayer, and meditation, her divine self emerges. I am grateful to know her.
Nancy Gilliam, Ph.D.
January, 2000
PREFACE
The meditative process is, for me, a voyage of discovery—a peeking into dusty, darkest corners, a delving into deepest wells, a mining of the truest ore of self.
There are always surprises, an unending acquiring of knowledge (at various times in the forms of an intense storm, a gentle fall of rain, or a distilling of dew). There are wonders, even awe; balkings, resistance, pushing away, averted face; embracing and welcome.
It is a voyage to self-realization that I will never forget, one that continues and will continue. It is the voyage of, and an opportunity for, a lifetime.
During the course of this uniquely private, intimate and solitary occupation, I began to write down some of my meditations, and have chosen selected ones from them to share with the world in the hope that others may benefit from the pattern and the process that I used, if not the specifics of the content.
I wrote some of the early pieces after the fact, from memory. Then, upon realizing how often the images were occurring (as soon as I would become still and open my heart and mind), I began to sit with pad and pen in hand or at the keyboard, during the meditative sessions and transcribe as the words and images flowed.
The sessions are organic, growing out of one another, leading into one another, progressing from one to the next. They are linear, but at the same time branching. They exist outside of time, outside the box—beyond the bounds of ordinary thinking. They reside in an essential ether, an atmosphere of their own, on another plane, if you will, within an aura of clarity unlike any I have ever known, and between parentheses of truth.
They resist editing (which is probably anathema to the publishing world, but how does one edit heartsongs?), withstand analysis, and endure, pure of intent and purpose. They are my truth, no other’s; but perhaps others may derive reassurance or enlightenment from them. If so, I will be humbly grateful.
I am thankful for the blessings of my moments and pray to come to realize them more often and fully, explore them more deeply, and enjoy them more completely.
I am very grateful to Nancy Gilliam, Ph.D., first for being, then for acting as guide, coach, advocate and champion, and to Jon Kabat Zinn for conceiving Full Catastrophe Living.
Come, join me on the path to self-discovery…
Rache Darwin
December, 1999
PROLOGUE
This book takes the form of a three-fold conversation. It is written primarily by, or from the viewpoint of, a child. I am the Child, 50-something years old, whose growth was stunted, and the Adult, who grew with my body and managed to accrue some wisdom. The third party is the Teacher, the one who knows, understands and loves (perhaps the deepest—or highest—part of myself, perhaps an inner Master, perhaps God; call it what you will). Together we conversed, and still converse, bringing our selves to a better, safer place.
For me, the months of May through October 1998 passed in a delirium of desperate manic-depression. During those months, I left my home and husband,