Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage
By Meg Wilson
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--Lynn Marie Cherry, speaker and author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal
Meg Wilson watched her world fall apart when her husband confessed to years of sexual addiction. She has intimate knowledge of the devastation that follows--and she has come through the other side.
In her groundbreaking Hope After Betrayal, Meg provides reassuring counsel, compassionate insight, and wise direction. By sharing her story, talking to other women who've been in a similar situation, and turning to Scripture, Wilson has helped countless readers through the steps to recovery--and shows how you can follow that same path out of the darkness.
This newly revised and expanded edition includes new lessons Meg has learned over the last decade. A compelling final chapter by Meg's husband sheds further light on the difficult road to healing from sexual addiction, and a thoughtful new appendix addresses the effect sexual addiction has on children in the home.
"Hope After Betrayal is a strong and sure lifeline that thousands of women will reach for in a drowning moment. Meg offers careful, clear direction and encouragement in each chapter while unveiling the truth about sexual addiction. . . . This valuable tool should be required reading for every wife and every mother of sons."
--Robin Jones Gunn, best-selling author of the Sisterchicks Series
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Hope After Betrayal - Meg Wilson
INTRODUCTION
Walking Your Path
Hope After Betrayal is designed to help you walk along this path of darkness and pain and into a place of light and hope. No matter how long ago your injury occurred, this book is for you. Others, including me, have taken this journey and fought their battles along the way.
But there’s good news—hope is real. Regardless of what your husband has done, or is doing, there’s always hope for those who seek help. I’ve seen people do the messy work that results in the beauty of healing. I understand the joy of catching a shimmer of light where darkness once reigned. I’ve been to depths of pain unimaginable, only to find that God was deeper still. His peace and healing are within your grasp too. You can be whole again. You can experience hope after betrayal. I can say emphatically, this is work worth doing.
But God’s definition of hope is not the same as ours. We think of hope as a wish or dream of something that might happen. God’s definition of hope is promise.
Like all of His promises, it is an absolute. Hope in Christ can be defined as complete confidence in a certainty. This hope includes our eternal future, for which Christ provided through His obedience to the Father when He went to the cross. His return is equally assured. Our security in the midst of insecure circumstances can be found only in Christ and His never-failing promises to us. He is the Hope After Betrayal.
Ten years have only cemented God as Hope-bearer. As I continue to minister to hurting women, I consistently see His amazing love and care. I continue to learn new aspects of His unfathomable love for us. A Perspective
section has been added at the end of each chapter to share many of the lessons I’ve gleaned over the last ten years.
The best way to recognize God’s direction is to look for Him in His love letter to us. That is why each chapter ends with Path Lights
—specific Bible verses that apply to the topic of the chapter. Some of these Scriptures will be new to you, others you may already know. In addition to guiding us to recognize God’s direction, I’ve included these verses because once we learn about God’s character, we will then recognize His qualities in other people.
Because this book takes you on a journey of self-exploration, you are asked to keep a journal (please see appendix A for further direction). After the Path Lights
are some questions and suggestions to give you a place to jump off in your journaling. My only request is that you come to God with an open heart and put the greatest weight on God’s Word and not mine.
But be warned: as you read, you may find some truths in these pages that you’d rather avoid. Every fiber of your being will cry out against the change needed to move forward. Read those parts over and over, though. Use your journal to write about what you’re feeling, and don’t move on until you’re willing to apply that truth completely. Work through every word until the direction is clear for your next step.
There might be times you find yourself getting mad or wanting to balk. These feelings are okay. Tell God; He will listen. Wrestle with these new concepts through prayer and through your journaling or some other healthy outlet for expression. Process your thoughts no matter how raw. Don’t bother to clean up the words for God. He has already seen your whole heart, and He still loves you completely.
Whether you’re new at turning to God or have been a follower of Christ for many years, expect Him to reveal Himself as you read through these pages. He has not abandoned you. He is, in fact, calling you by name. You’ll discover that our heavenly Father is more than able to guide you, and He wants you to know that He has much to teach you through your pain. The words He has placed in the Bible are His words of love to you, written with you in mind. So listen to His truths, even those that are costly and painful. God wants to work in you and through you regardless of what your husband does or does not do. Decide whom you will follow, whose voice you will listen to, and whom you will serve every day.
Perspective
I have been working with the walking wounded long enough to know some of you reading this book have been injured in the church, by those of us who call ourselves Christians—even pastors and counselors. You thought they would have tools to help, but they didn’t. I am truly sorry for the added pain. There are no words that can change this reality, but I pray you will give God a chance to restore your faith in Him. As for His kids, we are flawed. Though saved, we will be working on ourselves until the day we die. I pray you can one day forgive those who have added to your pain.
If this is not you, let it be a cautionary reminder to talk to God before you try to help others. Our job isn’t to have the answers, but to always point people back to Christ, for He is the only one with all the answers. The church is full of broken people. It’s why we accepted our Savior. Sadly, we all still operate in our weakness instead of His strength at