Raising Children: 3 Manuscripts - Raising Sons, Raising Girls, Parenting Teens: A+ Parenting

By Joseph R. Parker

Have you wondered if you're making the right decisions when it comes to raising your sons and daughters?

Over the last years, there has been a lot of confusion about the role of boys and girls in our society. It's easy to see why parents are left with lots of unanswered questions when they're raising their children.

Raising children the right way through positive parenting can significantly help them become responsible and balanced adults later on.
 

Here's some of what you can expect to learn inside the pages of this book:

• Learn how to avoid common mistakes that parents make that can end up harming their kids development in the long-term.
• How to teach proper conduct at home the right way, saving yourself of countless headaches.
• Dealing with depression, anxiety and feelings of loneliness.
• The right way to help your sons and daughters prepare for the future.
• The biggest challenges when raising children and teenagers and how to easily overcome them.

Would you like to enjoy going through every stage of your child's development without worrying if you're doing the right thing or not?

The earlier you manage to give proper guidance, the easier it is for them to grow into healthier adults.

However, there is no such thing as being too late, and even the most damaging of behaviors and habits can be helped.
 

Do not leave anything to chance. Start by guiding them towards the best possible path towards a healthy and responsible adulthood today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Joseph R. Parker
• Release date: Feb 12, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386162681

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Introduction

This book contains proven steps and strategies on how to raise young boys with the aim of making sure they become mature, responsible, and confident as well as happy and successful in their chosen pursuits.

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Raising children properly is one of the most important things at which any sensible parent wants to become very successful at. However, unlike pretty much everything else today, kids don’t come with instruction manuals. In fact, no one knows how to raise children by the book because such a book does not—neither will it possibly ever—exist.

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Whenever you ask parents what’s their number one priority regarding raising their children, what’s the reply you’ll hear the most? Above all, they want their kids to be happy through their development and adulthood. Now, there’s a lot of information on raising smart kids and successful kids that will probably do well financially in life, but how can you raise successful AND balanced kids?

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Sometimes it’s difficult to balance what’s the best for our children with what will make them happy - however the two don’t need to be mutually exclusive.

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This book does not claim to contain all the information that parents of boys will ever need. Rather, its main goal is to simply steer parents in the right direction as far as raising their sons is concerned. There is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to raising a son (or even a daughter, for that matter) because people all have diverse personalities. Hence, this book was written in the hope of serving as a basic guide for parents of boys regardless of what makes their sons unique.

Chapter 1: The importance of raising boys properly

Bringing up a child is one of the toughest but most responsible and satisfying tasks a person can face. Unfortunately, it is also one of the tasks that people get the least formal training for.

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Everyone's understanding of how to raise a child and their methods usually come from their surroundings as well as their own upbringing. This may lead to patterns in which the parent's own personal experiences are constantly repeated and forwarded to their kids.

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Influential role models

Parents are without a doubt, one of the most, if not the most influential role models that their kids will probably have under normal circumstances. Parents who pay compliments and show respect, kindness, honesty, love, hospitality and generosity towards their children will influence them to behave in a similar manner.

Parents should strive to offer their unconditional care and love for their kids, in addition to give them the ongoing support they require to become self-assured and balanced.

It’s also crucial for parents to set reasonable expectations for their kids and let them know clearly what it is they’re expecting.

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For soon to be parents.

Before making the decision to have a child, it's wise for partners to know each other’s attitudes regarding parenting.

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Discipline is vital when raising kids. Surprisingly, all children need and wish to have boundaries set for them. Through discipline, your son will understand that some types of conduct are acceptable while others aren't. Setting boundaries for children's conduct enables them to learn to properly behave in a social environment.

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Even for parents, proper discipline can be tricky to deal with with since it demands consistency. Parenting is a non-stop job. Most parents fail at raising their kids properly due to the fact that it can be difficult to be constantly paying attention to how they are disciplining their children and also because of the daily effort it requires.

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Inconsistency and insufficient discipline often create confused and rootless children - who'll test their parents constantly to discover exactly what the world is about. For this reason, parents who make the effort every single day to supply consistent limits and boundaries for their children, will (usually!) end up with them being well behaved.

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Most parents of boys are conscious that the world their children live in can sometimes be a confining, confusing place. A lot of parents witness their children end up quitting their hobbies, feel ashamed about shows of affection in public places, don’t put enough attention on their academic success, and restrict themselves in a variety of different ways which can stifle their creativity and expression. Adding to this problem, the older boys get, the more complicated it might be to connect with them at an emotional level and better understand what's going with their lives so that you can assess how to better assist them cope with the harsh social pressure they can experience at times.

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Likewise, parents frequently end up conflicted on how to guide their sons: while they do hope they become unique individuals regardless of the expectations put on them because of their gender, they also question themselves if they’re doing the right thing when they don't encourage their sons to emulate traditional masculine behaviors; fearing that they might be vulnerable to external forms of harm such as bullying, for example. Parents frequently, with the very best of intentions, claim that their sons ought to be tough so that they can better balance artistic and intellectual pursuits.

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Inside the narrow worldview that boys have to comply with (which usually starts taking place by first or second grade), anything which may be regarded as feminine is usually seen as a menace to their safety and social standing. Many actions as innocuous as smiling, nicely greeting teachers, freely showing their enthusiasm, and hugging their friends can be the subject of ridicule. Nowadays, the acceptable concept of what constitutes socially accepted conduct for women has broadened and changed; saying that something is ‘girly’ has become more nebulous, and consequently, boys are often left scrambling to recognize safe behaviors from those that they’ve been taught that aren’t. By junior high school, the worry of being different can become quite intense, which makes them live in a ‘limbo’ of sorts, outwardly prepared to participate in risky behavior in order to impress their peers while being inwardly afraid of doing something that deviates from what they feel is normal.

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While it’s tempting to mainly blame the media’s influence for this, many times the roots of the various challenges boys face are deeper and more diverse that most parents are aware of. Although the mainstream image of masculinity portrayed in popular media is indeed influential in all of this, their interactions with parents, teachers, peers, and other role models all cause more impact and are entwined from their current view of what masculinity is for them.

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From the day they come out of the womb, little boys are treated differently than their female counterparts: They're held less frequently by their parents, they're calmed less often when they cry, and also experience a higher degree of distance from their fathers than girls do. As boys develop, they're susceptible to a myriad of mixed messages- for example, they are told that there’s gender equality in our society, while on other times they hear that men still receive special privilege in some situations. They consume media that is, 80-90% of times, produced for any male audience. While they're constantly told to respect women, they're never given the chance to appreciate and understand feminine behaviors, or see them in a positive light.

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The effects of limiting boys

While the macho exterior boys are trained to display to the world frequently masks the suffering that comes from trying not to stray too far away from our limited view of masculinity, research reveals that boys are having more and more negative consequences due to society’s unrealistic expectations. They are more vulnerable to be physically injured by peers, have more academic struggles, be more susceptible to develop attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, more at risk to commit violent acts against others and themselves, and also increases their chances to become absentee parents later on. Events of abuse and violence are a common occurrence nowadays and, based on research, a high percentage of school shootings are caused by boys not being able to cope with their feelings. Males also typically experience a higher degree of homophobia than females do. This fear can be so intense that lots of men who aren't homosexual are frequently mislabeled as a result, leading to them sometimes taking extreme measures to prove their heterosexuality. Boys are also more prone to suffer injuries or even die accidentally because of the risk-taking behaviors they sometimes do in order to be able to prove their masculinity to their peers.

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Of course, parents aren’t powerless against the challenges and pressures that boys struggle with in their lives; as they can influence their child’s behaviors in a positive way before the media or their peers do. In most cases, children look up to their parents as role models, and trust them for guidance. Boys should be praised when they are working well with others (and to know the difference between cooperativeness and competitiveness), when they open themselves and express their emotions with both their mother and fathers and when they ask for help. In summary, it is very important to treat your son like a person with their own set of feelings, views and potential waiting to be developed instead of a ‘little person’. Instead of trying to mold him so that he better fits society’s expectations, make him conscious of the stipulations that this has on masculinity and help