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    Act from Choice: Simple tools for managing your habits, your emotions and yourself, to be how you mean to be
    Act from Choice: Simple tools for managing your habits, your emotions and yourself, to be how you mean to be
    Act from Choice: Simple tools for managing your habits, your emotions and yourself, to be how you mean to be
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    Act from Choice: Simple tools for managing your habits, your emotions and yourself, to be how you mean to be

    By Robert Goldmann

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    Train your brain to help you manage your emotions, your habits, and yourself

    Everyone says and does things they later regret. We do those things repeatedly, unable to restrain ourselves as much as we want. They’re habits. Act from Choice will help readers manage those unwanted habits so they can be the way they mean to be.

    Habits are unwanted when they violate our sense of ourselves and our values. They can include things like inappropriate angry outbursts, procrastination, breaking the diet or abandoning the exercise program. When unwanted habits have their way, our actions (or inaction) may leave us disappointed with ourselves, embarrassed and even out of integrity.

    Management of unwanted, regrettable habits is central to self-management, to emotional intelligence, to strong personal and professional relationships and even to self-esteem. In Act from Choice: Simple Tools for managing your habits, your emotions and yourself, to be how you mean to be, the author shares his first-hand view on how habitual patterns can stand in the way of achieving happiness, effectiveness and fulfillment.

    Drawing on his review of the research involving over 450 scientific articles and books on habitual behavior, Goldmann describes: what people do; why people do it; gives proof with examples; and describes how to manage unwanted habits. Case histories, along with novel, simple tools – many not previously available, show how to train the subconscious to wake a person up and bring them to self-awareness when unwanted urges are just beginning to form. That self-aware mind-space provides the perspective and openness necessary for resisting the impulse and making good choices, rather than mindlessly allowing impulses turn into action. That same mindful state is the foundation of emotional intelligence.

    Written in accessible, conversational language, Act from Choice explains why we have the unwanted habits we do, and why they are so hard to manage. Then it goes beyond mere explanations giving readers the tools needed to manage habits more effectively.

    The simple tools presented in Act from Choice will help readers manage their emotions, actions and themselves more successfully. Best of all, readers will find that the tools are easy to master, and begin to be effective right away.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherRobert Goldmann
    Release dateDec 7, 2017
    ISBN9780998568737
    Act from Choice: Simple tools for managing your habits, your emotions and yourself, to be how you mean to be
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    Robert Goldmann

    Robert Goldmann is a business and life coach. He coaches and mentors executives, business owners, professionals and others seeking to design and reach fulfilling business and personal goals. He is a meditation instructor, and a former CEO of manufacturing and financial service companies and facilitator of groups dealing with life‐threatening illness and bereavement. Those experiences informed and motivated his self‐study of psychology and neurobiology that produced the perspectives and techniques he presents in Act from Choice. His coaching practice, now in its 15th year, has given him a firsthand view of how habitual patterns stand in the way of achieving effectiveness, happiness, and fulfillment. And it’s been a proving ground for many of the techniques in the book. Before undertaking a career in coaching, mentoring, and consulting, he was CEO of three technology and financial services companies, the largest of which had over $100 million in sales and 1,100 employees. Prior to becoming a CEO he held senior management positions in large public companies where he was responsible for corporate strategy, acquisitions, and marketing. As to training, he has a degree in mechanical engineering from MIT, and a MBA from Harvard Business School. He has formal training as a coach, having graduated from CoachU. In addition, he has attended numerous retreats and workshops led by teachers such as Pema Chödrön, Jon Kabat‐Zinn, Stephen and Ondrea Levine, Reggie Ray, Sakyong Mipham, Alan Wallace, and his principal teacher, Tsoknyi, Rinpoche. He lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, with his partner, Victoria Self, close to his two daughters, their husbands and two grandchildren. He speaks on personal and professional growth, life balance, corporate strategy, and Buddhist topics and has led seminars and retreats on these and other subjects. He coaches mostly by phone, to clients in the U.S. and elsewhere.

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