The Birthday Rules: Critical Conversations to Have with Your Children (Ages 6 to 16)
By Jeff Wald and Dr. Rachel Marsh
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In our fast-paced world consisting of ever-changing technology and evolving social norms, parents are finding the traditional challenges of raising well-adjusted, self-confident and socially responsible children ever more difficult. As parents, we struggle with when to grant certain permissions and when to have difficult conversations. We often avoid such decisions, waiting until an external event forces the conversation or too many kids at school have been granted the same permission. To meet these challenges, parents need a framework that can adjust to the development needs of each child, the values of each community and the means of each family. The Birthday Rules provides that framework.
The Birthday Rules provides a fun and flexible framework of an annual review process combined with a structure for increasing permissions, responsibilities and conversations. We suggest using a child’s birthday as not only a time to celebrate, but also as an excellent opportunity to have important conversations, grant desired permissions and explain the responsibilities that go along with those permissions.
The Birthday Rules offers a structure to help with one of the most important tasks parents have—creating a safe environment to communicate and demonstrate unconditional love.
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The Birthday Rules - Jeff Wald
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The Birthday Rules:
Critical Conversations to Have with Your Children
© 2017 by Jeff Wald with Dr. Rachel Marsh
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Contents
The Birthday Rules: An Introduction
The Recommended Rules and Conversations for…
Six-Year-Olds
Seven-Year-Olds
Eight-Year-Olds
Nine-Year-Olds
Ten-Year-Olds
Eleven-Year-Olds
Twelve-Year-Olds
Thirteen-Year-Olds
Fourteen-Year-Olds
Fifteen-Year-Olds
Sixteen-Year-Olds
The Birthday Rules Conclusion
References by Age
About the Authors
The Birthday Rules: An Introduction
In a fast-paced world consisting of ever-changing technology and evolving social norms, parents are finding the traditional challenges of raising well-adjusted, self-confident and socially responsible children ever more difficult. Parents struggle with when to grant certain permissions and when to have difficult conversations. They tend to avoid such decisions, waiting until an external event forces the conversation or too many kids at school have been granted the same permission. To meet these challenges, parents need a framework that can adjust to the development needs of each child, the values of each community and the means of each family. What we offer in these pages is a suggested framework that we call The Birthday Rules.
The Birthday Rules provides a fun and flexible framework of an annual review
process combined with a structure for increasing permissions, responsibilities and conversations. We suggest using a child’s birthday as not only a time to celebrate and have cake, but also as an excellent opportunity to have important conversations, grant desired permissions and explain the responsibilities that go along with those permissions.
While there can never be the perfect guide to raising children, we can create a structure to help with some of the most important tasks parents have: creating a safe environment to communicate and demonstrate unconditional love.
The Birthday Rules offers a guide as to the appropriate ages for certain activities and conversations:
• When should children be allowed to have mobile devices?
• When should discussions of bullying take place?
• When will children be responsible enough to surf the Internet on their own?
• When should a discussion of sexual activity take place? What about safe sex?
• When should discussions about depression and suicide take place?
Parents have debated some of these questions for centuries; others are new concerns in our modern, technology-enabled world. Either way, parents have the opportunity to have conversations with their children, from toddlers to teenagers, to better prepare them for the inevitable situations they will face as they develop.
The annual conversation that occurs around a child’s birthday is formatted to create a safe and effective environment for parents to discuss difficult topics, create appropriate permissions, and then align the responsibilities that go with those permissions.
We do not profess to be experts on child development, but instead have taken the necessary time reading material and studies from many experts and compiling the data into this quick workbook for you and your child.
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