Dream Weaver Goal Achiever: A Step-By-Step Guide to Turning Your Dreams Into Reality

By Barbara Brekke

What if you could do the things you dreamt of your whole life? You can! You can create a life that you love, one that is an ultimate adventure that fulfills your passion. Take action now so you wake up each day with a smile on your face because you love your life. This book will guide you through a user friendly process to turn your dreams into reality. You will learn step by step how to: * discover who you want to be and where you want to go. * identify the gaps from where you are today to your dream life. * face your fears and overcome obstacles* find the resources needed to provide you with support. * determine what and who to leave behind. * create a realistic action plan, goals and timeline. * anchor your dreams with your five senses. * walk your unique path forward to a new you!
Don't let your dreams be something you leave on the back burner, hoping to get to someday.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Aug 3, 2016
• ISBN: 9780997355703

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CHAPTER 1

Dare to Dream

WE LEARN as we grow that our dreams are fragile. They can break into little fragments and blow away in the wind if we don’t protect them. Dreams are a precious gift. We need to nurture, grow, and realize them. Making our dreams come true allows us to look back at our life journey with joy, and with little regret.

Consciously nurturing our dreams is one of the most powerful things that we can do for ourselves. We need to think of them as living things that we encourage to grow and thrive. Feed and water your dreams with positive thoughts on a daily basis and they will flourish. Honor and respect your dreams regardless of the thoughts and opinions of others. Let inspiration and optimism be the fertilizer for your future.

How many of us were asked when we were young what it was we wanted to be when we grew up, while someone waited and really wanted to hear our answers? Maybe you said you wanted to be a movie star or famous singer or fantastic artist. And then that person really listened and helped you explore what it is you really wanted to do? For those of you who had that support, how very fortunate you were.

Too often, when many of us expressed our dreams, someone nicely laughed or perhaps even suggested there was no way we would be able to make our dream come true. Or become the person we dreamed of becoming. This shrugging aside of our dreams by people we counted on to support us I am sure was not out of meanness. Many of our parents were young themselves when we were growing up. They were still learning to be adults, taking care of themselves and us, and it wasn’t easy for them.

And many of our parents may have felt limited themselves. Perhaps they grew up with parents who also felt limited. They may have shrugged our dreams off and pushed us in another direction in an effort to try to help us. Many had a hard life and wanted to ensure we had an education and a stable position so that we could always support ourselves and not have to struggle as hard as they did. Parents try to guide their children to a future they feel is stable and safe. Big dreams require taking risks and often a more difficult path.

At a very young age we all knew from moment to moment what we wanted and we believed that we could have it. We went after it without any hesitation or thought about risks or how we looked. We may even have gotten in trouble for going after it but still worked hard to get it. Perhaps it was something shiny across the room or a tasty cookie. We reached for it, crawled for it, ran for it. And even if we were told we couldn’t have it, we still tried to get it. It’s only as we grow up that we lose this intense commitment to get out of life what we really want. We even stop thinking about it. It’s time to pull back the curtain and let the sunlight of our dreams shine in. Take off this heavy cloak and run through a field of wildflowers. Remove the fears and lack of confidence that holds us back.

We often say and feel that we are too busy to explore what’s deep within us and discover what it is we really want and the type of life we want to live. We don’t take the time to discover who we are and what more we can be. We have a tendency to do this because we don’t want to be taken out of our comfort zone. We will most likely discover things about ourselves that we know will take a lot of effort to change. And for the most part people don’t like change. However, whether we like it or not, change is the only consistent thing that will happen to us. So it’s best to bite the bullet and cause the change rather than be the victim of it. Of course, some change will always be out of our control, but how we react to it is within our control. Anytime we give deep thought to a situation and create a plan we inevitably end up in a better place than we would have had we not done so.

As a life coach, I have numerous clients who made the decision to pursue a big dream. Though previously they had put their dream aside for other priorities, they all tell me that in hindsight they wish they had started on it earlier.

Sadly, statistics show that by the age of twenty-five most people lose their dreams and just go with the flow. Many of us end up in careers without the intent to do so. Now that isn’t always bad. In order to get a job when I was young I applied to an insurance company and got a job in the file room. Throughout my working years I always took advantage of every opportunity to learn more and grow. I literally loved every job I had because I was always learning. I created my goals for where I was, and it worked well for me. That may not be the case for many others. From age twenty-five to sixty-five many people just go back and forth to work doing the same thing day after day. That’s when normally the boredom sets in and people live with their many I wishes.

We all come from different backgrounds and at this point in life it really doesn’t matter why we may have walked away from our dreams and our passion. We may not even remember the reason because life got busy and we needed to take care of ourselves and our families. We’ve all caught ourselves driving somewhere and then realizing our mind was totally somewhere else. Sometimes that happens to our lives. In some ways we’ve become creatures of habit, like robots. It’s time for us to get in the driver’s seat, determine our route, and put our foot on the gas pedal. We have to be bold enough to start the journey.

If you truly have a burning desire to change your life you will absolutely put steps in place to do so. What so often holds us back is that we don’t take the time to discover what we really want. Perhaps we feel that currently our life is okay or believe we are stuck with it as it is.

You hear once in a while about someone getting a big break out of nowhere. I often wonder if it is out of nowhere or if the person had really prepared for it in some way but didn’t connect that the break was the result of previous actions. Regardless, getting a big break is not reliable and is rare. If we live our lives waiting for a break we won’t have the motivation to create a break for ourselves. Don’t waste your life living in desperation waiting for that big break. Go out and make life happen the way you want it to. If a big break does come your way, and it appears to be valid, grab onto it. Know that it is a rare and awesome occurrence. Accept it and celebrate!

When we were young we believed in ourselves and our ability to become anyone we wanted to be. But as we grow older we have a tendency to let the opinions of others and our past experiences lead us to believe that we cannot accomplish the things we most desire. We’ve all had bad experiences but that is in the past. Make the effort to learn from these and take a different road this time.

We all grew up with people making statements about us (innocently or not) that we let limit us. Examples might be that you were told you’re pretty, but not very smart. Or that hopefully you’ll find a rich husband because you can never make it on your own. Or you aren’t smart enough, or educated enough, to follow the path you want to walk. These messages we got when we were young have a tendency to unconsciously stay with us and impact us in a negative way. It helps if we can think back about the statements we let limit us and then think of times we’ve proved they are not true.

How many times have you heard the saying don’t get your hopes up? While many people may hope for the best, at the same time they expect the worst. For some reason many of us have been taught to be so cautious that we think we need to aim low. But when you raise your expectations you raise your standards and that results in an improved life.

Don’t let your dreams be something you put on the back burner, to be pursued some day. How many times do we say we will set goals for our dream after we pay off our debts, the kids are out of school, even worse, when we retire? There is no reason at all to delay taking some steps, even if small, to move toward your dream. There will always be something in the way if you don’t make your dream a priority.

One of my clients, Marie, is now a widow in her sixties. She has worked with me to create a whole new life for herself. She told me how she and her husband, Larry, planned to travel when they both retired. They discussed these plans for over twenty years. Marie retired two years before Larry, and during that time added the details to their travel plans. Unfortunately, Larry died suddenly several months prior to his retirement date. Marie did travel to Europe on her own, and told me about how she would think of Larry at the various places they had planned to visit together. Marie has expressed her real regret at having put off travel until after retirement. Because of that decision, she doesn’t have the wonderful memories of sharing travel with Larry.

When big changes come our way, it can be frightening and extremely uncomfortable. Sometimes we have no choice but to go through that change and in other cases we