When Everyone Shines Including You

By Kelly Martin

Hiding is no longer an option.

Being seen, being heard and sharing your light with the world is calling you. Are you ready to take the leap into the great unknown, leave the stories of the past behind, and shine?
When Everyone Shines INCLUDING You (Book 2 in 'The Shine Series), takes the reader on a journey through the highs and lows of learning to shine for the first time. From resistance to allowing the natural unfolding of life to take place.
Not everyone is able to go leaping into the spotlight easily. Not everyone has the confidence to shout from the rooftops, 'Look at me; here I am!' After many years of feeling invisible, feeling like a failure, shining is a huge step.

'When Everyone Shines INCLUDING You' will make the journey a more fulfilling and compassionate experience, revealing how your humanity holds your greatest gifts and how vulnerability is your greatest strength.

In Book 2 in 'The Shine Series' you will:

•Learn how to stop pushing against the flow as you step into your power.
•Discover how to embrace your ego without becoming arrogant.
•Embrace and honour your personal limitations and then release them.
•Awaken to your own value and share your worth with the world.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kelly Martin
• Release date: Apr 17, 2016
• ISBN: 9781311198389

Kelly Martin

Kelly Martin is a passionate and unconventional metaphysical thinker and writer who has been questioning reality since 1999. Writing on her blog Kelly Martin Speaks and speaking on YouTube she traces her journey from shyness to greater confidence. Kelly has explored many different paths from Reiki healing, Shamanism to Buddhism and now embraces a primarily mindful journey. After what felt like a decade of severe anxiety she took up mindfulness meditation and began to notice how much compassion and kindness lay in simply being with who she was, in that moment. Through practising mindfulness she began to emerge from a story of failure and fear to empowerment and greater confidence. She wants to encourage people to find the treasures that lie within the pain and suffering and to learn to see themselves as 'enough' exactly as they are, right now. Born in Newcastle-upon-Tyne in North East England, she now lives in Gloucestershire with her best friend Mike and the occasional visiting cat. She likes nothing better than sitting in a café drinking coffee, writing and people watching. Prior to metaphysics she majored in Environmental Studies at University and in many ways her love of the natural world has carried over into the love of nature as a great guide in her life. You can see more of her work at: KellyMartinSpeaks.co.uk, kellymartin.co.uk and her guest posts at ThankTheNow.com

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When Everyone Shines

INCLUDING You

Saying Goodbye to the Failure Story

The Shine Series BOOK 2

See also Book 1,

'When Everyone Shines BUT You'

Kelly Martin - 2017

Copyright 2017 Kelly Martin

First Edition: 2016

Second Edition: 2017

All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.

Disclaimer: The information in this book is not intended as a substitute for consultation with healthcare or other professionals. Any use of the information herein is at the reader’s sole discretion and risk. Neither the author nor the publisher can be held responsible for any loss, claim, or damage arising out of the use or misuse of any, or all, of the information contained herein

Website: http://www.kellymartin.co.uk

Email: mailto:[e-mail]

Cover Design: Kelly Martin

Editing/Formatting: Michael Doherty

Dedication

I dedicate this book to everyone on the planet who feels too afraid to shine. To anyone who knows there is a spark inside them simply bursting to be released. For all those people who have a voice that needs freeing and a light that needs illuminating.

Here's to all the humans ready to remove the cloak of invisibility and be seen.

Contents

Acknowledgements

Foreword

Preface

Introduction

Chapters

1. Acceptance – The Root of Your Light

2. Say Goodbye to the Old Ways

3. Don't Expect the Impossible

4. Building the Roots of Your Work

5. Peek-a-Boo in the Light

6. Developing a Sense of Ego

7. Stop Pushing the Boulder up the Mountain

8. Layers from the Dark Revealed

9. Seeing Your Vulnerability as Strength

10. Travelling Through the Death Cycle

11. Even When Those Crappy Thoughts Tell You Otherwise

12. Let the Outer Guru Go

13. Moths to a Flame

14. When Dark Clouds Hover,

15. Drink in the Beauty of the New

16. The Gift of Grief

17. Old Stories – New Light

18. Receiving Praise

19. Still Waters Run Deep

20. Life Recruits From the Pit not the Pedestal

21. Believe – Receive – Achieve. Is That True?

22. Suddenly Centre Stage

23. When Things Don't Go According to Plan

24. Waving Farewell to the Old

25. Letting Others Have Their Triumphs

26. ENOUGH

27. The Sky's the Limit

28. Dressing for Action

A Final Note from the Author

Appendices

About the Author

About the Book 1 in 'The Shine Series'

Resources

Acknowledgements

To those people who never gave up on me. To those who began to see my light and wanted to see more. To everyone who triggered me into change and awakening further. To those people who left me behind, abused my trust and misjudged me. Thank You!

And to Michael Doherty, Lorna Hedges and Linda Matthews for believing in me, encouraging me and supporting me through many a dark night and tough times as the light in me woke up. And the lovely ladies and gentlemen at the 'Ray of Light' circle led by Lorna. Thank you Ann, Laura, Joanne, Paul, Charlotte and Debbie, who without their weekly support I would have never freed my speaking voice, thank you.

And a huge thanks as always once again to my best friend Michael Doherty who grammar swatted all my spelling mistakes and encouraged me until I started to believe in my own light.

Thank you!

Kelly

Foreword

I first met Kelly about 13 years ago in an online group. We met up in person at a gathering of group members and found that we had many similar interests. A few years previously, Kelly had started on her spiritual path and I could see that she had a lot of spiritual potential, even though she didn't believe it herself.

These thirteen years have been a journey of development for both of us, and I can assure you that everything she writes about has happened. All the traumas; the depression; the tears; the screaming and wailing; the highs and the lows – often mainly lows.

She wants it ALL, and she wants it NOW. She's never been happy about the gradual step-by-step approach – thus the periods of anger, frustration, sadness, you name it.

However, this has put her in the ideal position to write a book about her journey. She has probably experienced all the possible ups and downs that could face readers who are embarking on their own journeys of discovering who they really are, and accepting that this includes embracing their human selves as well.

It's been a rollercoaster ride for both of us, but worth every moment of seeing her develop from a person with zero self-worth, to becoming a confident woman who believes in both herself and her mission in life, which is to help others who are searching for meaning in their lives.

This book is a sequel to her first book in 'The Shine Series', 'When Everyone Shines But You'.

I thoroughly recommend both of them.

Through knowing Kelly, I have been exposed to a spiritual and emotional view of life that has contrasted with my mathematical and scientific background, and I am a more balanced person because of it.

I have always been interested in psychology and philosophy, and since my retirement, I have written an interpretation of the Chinese classic, the 'I Ching', especially for those who want an introduction to the eastern way of understanding the world.

Writing it has enabled me to apply its concepts to deepening my understanding of Kelly and to being a better support for her on her journey.

Reading and editing Kelly's books has helped me expand my awareness of how important it is to not repress our emotions, but to fully embrace the vulnerabilities of being human.

Michael Doherty

(Author: I Ching – A Unique Interpretation)

Preface

Wearing my own cloak of invisibility I wrote the book 'When Everyone Shines But You'. It was incredibly healing to me, but once finished I noticed I still struggled to be seen. It was a slow road and a real inner journey of self-love, something I never thought I would experience in my lifetime.

It was wonderful to accept and embrace what is, to allow my life to unfold, because it led me to acknowledging my own light, but this time it was not only an inner journey, but an outer journey too.

'When Everyone Shines INCLUDING You' continues this journey, from the unfolding nature of reality, through those periods of challenge, loneliness, depression and envy, to standing up to be counted, discovering what is within each and everyone one of us wanting to be freed.

This book is helping me recognise my light and opening my heart to be seen, but also guidance from the wisdom within, on what it means to shine, beyond the clichéd self-help/new age jargon, to something far more meaningful and grounded in reality.

We may all want something better in our lives and for our lives to have true purpose and meaning, but how do we experience this? What does it mean to shine whole-heartedly without the ego taking over? And what about those of us who need to develop our egos? Crazy as it seems, many, including me, have had a 'negative' ego for a very long time. Our egos have been very good at putting us down, dimming our light, hiding us behind that big old rock when other people shone brightly, encouraging us to compare ourselves with others, leaving us feeling envious and hopeless.

I've been there many times in my life and I know it sucks big time.

But, 'When Everyone Shines INCLUDING You' puts this into perspective.

We deserve to have a healthy ego, a balanced ego, that actually does have a pride in who we are and what we do.

Writing this book was a cathartic release as many changes took place within me spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Regular mindfulness and meditation led to a knowing that I had a bigger purpose than staying home and hiding behind my computer screen. It gave me the freedom to speak, a fear I had had for what seemed like a decade.

When readers of my first book said how it really soothed them and gave them a nurturing sense of wellbeing that other self-help books didn't, I knew that writing from the place of change was the key; to write when in the midst of the experience instead of writing after the change. Because who better to learn from than someone who is going through what you're going through right now, as you pick up this book to read?

As I write, fear arises – fear of being seen and heard, but a bigger voice is growing: 'It's time now, time to shine'.

We have been in the dark shadows for too long. It's time for all of us 'square pegs' and 'black sheep' to really be seen.

Introduction

That inner purpose is simply bursting from your chest. You feel like a champagne bottle with the cork still in, and life has shaken it up and you feel like you could simply explode.

You're itching to be seen; you're desperate to be known and acknowledged for who you are; you have a passion inside you that wants to be made real; you want to give back to the world and let your light shine.

You want to be included in the world.

You want to no longer be sitting in the shadows, envying, as your peers, family and society shine and pass you by.

You took time out to be mindful, to be present, and to allow your life to unfold. You feel it is now unfolding and part of this unfolding is the inner desire to illuminate the world with your light.

You can't stay hidden anymore.

The world needs you and you know this.

Not in an ego way, but in an 'I can make a difference here on this planet Earth' way. You know this, you really do. And so the cork needs to removed, perhaps not in an explosion of fireworks, but in a gentle unveiling of the truth of who you are.

You see, if you unveiled your light in a kaleidoscope of colour, not only would you surprise the world, you would shock your inner child, that part of you that has been protecting you for so long from what appeared to be a scary and judging world, and cannot cope with being thrown onto the stage of life without preparation, without guidance, without nurturing.

So here you are ready to be nurtured into your light, nurtured into shining bright.

This is not a journey