Remember How I Love You: Love Letters from an Extraordinary Marriage
By Jerry Orbach, Elaine Orbach, Sam Waterston and Ken Bloom
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Over the years Jerry wrote hundreds of notes -- all of which Elaine cherished and preserved. Now dozens of Jerry's most meaningful poems to Elaine, along with stories from his amazing career and their enduring romance, tell the tale of their life together. With essays from some of Jerry's dearest friends and a foreword by Sam Waterston, Elaine created a collection of funny and moving poetry and a tribute to a wonderful marriage and a dearly loved man.
The world remembers Jerry as a legendary Broadway actor, Baby's father in Dirty Dancing, and of course the wisecracking detective Lenny Briscoe on Law & Order. But to his widow, Elaine, Jerry was a poet...and the love of her life.
Jerry Orbach
Jerry Orbach appeared on Broadway more than any actor in Broadway history, appearing in The Fantasticks, 42nd Street, and Promises, Promises. He appeared in several films, including Dirty Dancing and Crimes and Misdemeanors. On TV, he starred in his own series before joining the cast of Law & Order. Jerry passed away in 2004.
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Remember How I Love You - Jerry Orbach
Love Letters from an Extraordinary Marriage
REMEMBER HOW
I Love You
Jerry Orbach and Elaine Orbach
with Ken Bloom
foreword by Sam Waterston
A Touchstone Book
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Copyright © 2009 by Elaine Orbach and Ken Bloom
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Orbach, Elaine.
Remember how I love you: love letters from an extraordinary marriage/Jerry Orbach and Elaine Orbach with Ken Bloom; foreword by Sam Waterston.
p. cm.
1. Orbach, Elaine. 2. Orbach, Jerry. 3. Actors—
United States—Biography. 4. Dancers—United States—
Biography. I. Bloom, Ken. II. Title.
PN2287.063073 2009
792.02’80922—dc22
[B] 2009012590
ISBN 978-1-4391-4988-1
ISBN 978-1-4391-6011-4 (ebook)
Contents
Foreword by Sam Waterston
Introduction
Jerry’s Early Years
Elaine’s Beginnings
How We Met
Two Bananas
Salad Days
Law & Order
Married Life
Jerry’s Love Affair with New York
More Life with Jerry
Jerry’s Illness
Life Without Jerry
My Wish for You
Afterword by Richard Belzer
A Letter from the Editor
Acknowledgments
About the Authors
Foreword
by SAM WATERSTON
JERRY ORBACH WAS A MAN I knew for his talent and accomplishments before I ever met him. We were contemporaries, and even before Law & Order our paths rarely crossed professionally, I had him in my sights
all along. He could do things I couldn’t, like sing and dance, remember jokes, and tell them. There was plenty to envy and lots to admire: the extraordinary skills, the touch
that made audiences love him, and the first-class work he was always doing, usually for very long runs in big successes, usually on Broadway.
Meeting Jerry, though, he saw to it that envy was impossible. He was too engaging to envy—too much fun, too easy to be with, too even keeled and level headed. And he gave you to understand that, even if he was awesome, he didn’t want you to be awestruck. He wanted you to join the club, take it easy, share a laugh, take a look at things as they are, and not get too excited about yourself, anything else, or him. The more I knew Jerry, the more my admiration for him grew.
Friendship came easily to him, so easily that you almost didn’t notice, as if things had always been that way, and why ever would they not? With him leading, in the same natural way, my wife, Lynn, and I came to know and be friends with Jerry and his wife, Elaine—to discover her way with laughter, her courage to look things in the eye, that gathered energy of hers that dancers can come with. And we got to see the cleareyed optimism and hope they brought to everything, including especially his long fight with cancer.
And, through all that, we came to know a little about the love that they shared.
It was at Jerry’s memorial, when some of the poems he had written to Elaine were read, that I found out Jerry was a poet. And, whether he wanted admiration or not, it was that fact that led me to an admiration I have never gotten over. Okay, he knew how to shoot pool better than I did, how to hit the high notes, and get airborne, and stay on the beat. But reading the poems reveals something extra. They’re elegant miniatures from a tall poet. As you’d expect, coming from him, they’re clever, they sound like him, they have nice felicities of expression, and they’re full of wit, charm, and grace. They also reveal—so easily that you might not even see it happening—the size of his heart and the amount of love for Elaine there was in it.
Enjoy.
—Sam Waterston, 2009
Introduction
HIYA, KID."
Those little words changed my life forever. They were the first ones Jerry Orbach ever said to me, backstage during a rehearsal for Chicago. It was the beginning of a twenty-five-year love story filled with adventure and laughter and fun. It ended too soon—but will always be a part of me.
One of the many delights of Jerry, a side of him that perhaps his fans didn’t see, was his sense of romance. It was that, coupled with his brilliant wit, that led him to write me a little poem nearly every day, before he went off to work on Law & Order. The poems were a lot like the man who wrote them—fresh and simple, deviously witty, and deeply loving.
Over the years, without my realizing it, the poems piled up. I would read and enjoy each one, then toss it into the big soup tureen given to us by producer David Merrick, which still sits in my kitchen—until one day, I noticed that the top of the tureen was popping off! The little poems, scribbled on the backs of pages from a page-a-day cat calendar, were overflowing their container. They had become a kind of history of Jerry’s and my wonderful life together—the work, the friends, the family, and the fun, but mainly the love story we were in the process of creating each day.
It never dawned on me to gather these poems in a volume while Jerry was alive and writing them. Over time they were simply a part of our daily lives. I saved them because I couldn’t just crumple them up and throw them away. I felt that they were my special poems, for my eyes only, and I never dreamed I’d be sharing them with the world. But at Jerry’s memorial service, our friend Jane Alexander read a few of the poems to friends and strangers for the first time. I wanted to give people another insight to what their beloved friend was like in real life, because in the movies or on the television screen Jerry’s true persona didn’t come out.
After the service it was suggested that I gather some of the poems into a book. So, I reread them, reliving the feelings of when I first found them on my breakfast table. Because they were written almost daily, reading them today reminds me of the life we had together. Jerry was always giving me strength and happiness through the poems.
But before I get to the poems, I hope you’ll excuse me for first telling you a bit more about my husband and best friend. Of course, you