Don't Die without Me!
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"Don't Die Without Me!" provides the pertinent questions to ask medical specialists written in a way the reader and provider understand. It empowers patients and their families to seek the appropriate level of care during the diagnosis phase of a serious or terminal illness and remain sane, rational and in control.
Damiano de Sano Iocovozzi, MSN, FNP, CNS, served on the committee for biomedical ethics for the California Nursing Association in San Francisco, California. Damiano has 23 years of bedside experience as a registered nurse, clinical nurse specialist, family nurse practitioner and college instructor. His bedside knowledge, experience and skill continue to provide patients with expert care and consultation.
Damiano de Sano Iocovozzi
Damiano de Sano Iocovozzi, MSN FNP CNS is a world traveler, linguist and family nurse practitioner. From an early age, growing up in upstate New York, he was fascinated with languages, the spirit of giving and knowledge of other cultures and countries. Damiano completed years of language study and work in Italy, France and Germany. Later, he became a Peace Corps Volunteer and served in a small high school in Meknes, Morocco.After the Peace Corps, Damiano traveled to San Francisco, California where he worked as an international tour director, leading organized tours around the world. However, Damiano found his true calling becoming a registered nurse and clinical nurse specialist upon earning his degree from the University of San Francisco. During the AIDS epidemic, he specialized in caring for the very sick on a local AIDS hospital floor.Damiano completed a post-Master’s certificate as a family nurse practitioner from Samuel Merritt University where he worked as an instructor for nine years. He also worked as a clinical nurse specialist and educator for Summit Hospital in Oakland. He served veterans as a family nurse practitioner for a number of years in Vallejo, California. Damiano worked in a number of small clinics in primary care and cardiology in Palm Springs, California, where he currently lives. He is the author of "Sooner or Later: Restoring Sanity to Your End-of-Life Care" in a second printing as "Don’t Die Without Me" and the upcoming third release in the Sooner or Later trilogy, "Don’t Take Your Child to the Doctor without Me".
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Don't Die without Me! - Damiano de Sano Iocovozzi
…a rare treasure. This book shines with compassion, wisdom, humor, and truth. I believe it should be must reading for everyone. Really!
Christiane Northrup, M.D.
ob/gyn physician and author of the New York Times bestsellers:
Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause
Don't Die without Me!
Damiano de Sano Iocovozzi, MSN, FNP, CNS
Originally published as Sooner or Later
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Dedication
To Thomas Walls and Drew Johnson
who teach me constantly how to live.
Table of Contents
Thanks and Gratitude
Foreword
Preface
Introduction
Chapter One: Today is the First Day of the Rest of Your Life
Chapter Two: Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say
Chapter Three: Medical Goals, Ethics and You
Chapter Four: Your Preferences, Your Quality of Life and Socioeconomic Factors
Chapter Five: The Questions to Determine If You Are Near the End of Your Life
Chapter Six: Your Advance Health Care Directive, the Code Blue, the ICU and a Description of Life on a Breathing Machine
Chapter Seven: Hospice is a State of Mind
Chapter Eight: Conclusion and Going Forward
About the Author
Bibliography
Thanks and Gratitude
Don’t Die Without Me! has been on my mind for the last 23 years working full-time in the health care setting. I have worked as a registered nurse, clinical nurse specialist, family nurse practitioner and college lecturer over my career.
Here I would like to thank those many patients, family members and students whom I got close to during some very bad times and very good times. During those years, I believe my knowledge and skill helped my many patients find their appropriate levels of care, be it for a restoration of health or entrance into a hospice program for their final months.
To those many families and friends, thank you for letting me share those most precious moments with you.
To my parents, Vincent and Rose, and my siblings, Mary Magdalene, Cosmas, Gerry and Vincent, thank you for being my first teachers and friends. Thank you for the support, love and, humor you have given over the years.
To my maternal grandmother, Mary Terzo DiSano, thank you for showing me what was truly important from an early age. You approached life and death with grace, elegance and dignity.
To my Italian family, Maria LoRe, Ignazio LoRe and Francesca Ancona, a special thank you for all the family holidays through Italy and France. Thanks for teaching me also at an early age to live within my means and to find joy in the intangible.
A special thank you to Jeff Jones, my neighbor and his friend, Maribeth Pyne, who found me my most wonderful publisher, Ginny Weissman. If it weren’t for Jeff and Maribeth, Don’t Die Without Me! never would have been born.
To all my neighbors and friends, thanks for the encouragement as I read Don’t Die Without Me! over and over to you.
Foreword
By Major Kathleen White, RN MS FNP
Over the past 100 years, demographic and historical changes have significantly altered life expectancy, the size of the population over 65 and the experience of death and dying. Advances in health promotion and medical interventions have resulted in more individuals living longer with chronic conditions and degenerative diseases. This can present individuals and families with complex and difficult decisions about medical treatment to extend life, as well as the timing and setting of the dying process.
Don’t Die Without Me! is a definitive, focused resource for individuals, their friends and families to successfully navigate medical decision making in end-of-life care. The compassionate examples and targeted lists of questions for the health care team serve to empower the seriously ill patient, and their caregivers, in their decision making toward improving the quality of life on this chapter of their journey.
The author’s vast 23 years of clinical experience in advanced practice nursing, critical care and as a primary care provider brings a new and welcome approach to addressing the problems, challenges, stigma and uncertainties facing individuals and their care givers. It assists them in making informed choices about the most appropriate level of care that accommodates their needs and wishes. Through contemplation of one’s mortality, an individual can begin to identify and articulate preferences that support a good
death as described by the Congressional Research Service on End-of-Life Care, typically described as free from pain and suffering, in the company of loved ones, reflective of peace and meaning for the individual.
I am grateful for the opportunity to use this valuable resource in my clinical practice and eagerly anticipate that primary care and specialty practices, palliative and hospice care programs will consistently offer this unique tool to their clients.
Preface
I’d like to share a moment from my own childhood, which was spent growing up in upstate New York. As a little boy, I followed my father around a lot, especially when he worked as a sexton in a local cemetery digging graves by hand around 1957. I