Refuel: An Uncomplicated Guide to Connecting with God
By Doug Fields
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As a Christian, you know you need to have devotions. You've heard it from your pastor; you've seen the study guides; you may have even made a dent in the One Year Bible. Some of you have valiantly set your alarm clocks back an hour for morning quiet time, only to find that life creeps back in to steal your resolve. It isn't because you don't love God. You quit because you "bought into" someone's unsustainable habit at an unreasonable pace.
But you don't have to keep running on empty. Bestselling author Doug Fields offers an uncomplicated, practical plan that you can carry out. This book won't teach you how to "cram God" into your already-full schedule. Instead, Doug will show you a practical, doable way of setting God first, and then letting everything else in your life fall into place. You will experience the fullness God has for you-just take some time to refuel.
Doug Fields
Doug Fields estuvo involucrado en el ministerio juvenil por más de 2 décadas, y es autor de unos 30 libros –incluidos «Ministerio juvenil con propósito» y «Tus primeros dos años en el ministerio juvenil». Es egresado del Seminario Teológico Fuller, en el que obtuvo una maestría en divinidades. Asimismo, fue pastor de jóvenes en la iglesia Saddleback y es orador frecuente en eventos de Especialidades Juveniles.
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Refuel - Doug Fields
CHAPTER 1
I’m a Spiritual Loser
Within one week of getting his driver’s license, my sixteen-year-old son came to me feeling discouraged. He’d been thrilled to pass his driving test, but now his body language was unusually lifeless as he approached me. He said, Dad, I need to talk to you about my car.
Immediately I thought he was going to tell me about a speeding ticket or a fender bender or something that would cause him pain and cost me money. Instead, I discovered that his flat persona resulted from his need for additional cash to refuel his car. His weekly gas budget only lasted two and a half days, and now his tank—and his wallet—were empty. He was shocked at how few miles he could travel on one tank of gas. Sadly he said, Dad, I gauged it all wrong. I had no idea I’d go empty so soon.
His older sister had blessed
him with the family hand-me-down car (which she got from her greatgrandmother) before she went off to college. Now, sixteen-year-old Cody Fields, varsity athlete, at the height of impressing every living creature under the age of eighteen, was the one driving the 1990 Buick LaSabre. If you don’t know this model, just think tank.
To suggest it isn’t fuel efficient would be an understatement. Then add the color maroon to it, throw on a few stickers (such as I [heart] Kenya
), several little dents, and two missing hubcaps. While Cody doesn’t adore the car, he’s wise enough not to complain, because it would trigger Dad Lecture #317: Gratefulness.
When he was learning to drive, he’d jump in and out of the family car without ever considering the implications of a low fuel level. To his inexperienced mind, cars always seemed to have enough. He had been taught the basics of pumping gas but never really connected the price of gas to his own wallet and what happens when you unexpectedly and all too quickly reach empty. He was definitely not the first young driver to admit, I had no idea I’d go empty so soon.
Cody’s experience was very similar to how many Christians feel: living on empty, in need of spiritual refueling, and not exactly sure what to do. But unlike an empty automobile tank, followers of Jesus can be spiritually empty yet appear as though nothing is wrong—and some are great actors. For example, I can pretend all is well without confessing my emptiness or bringing others into my need for refueling. It’s very easy to live as if my spiritual tank is full. I can just put my life in cruise mode. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s not spiritually healthy, but I can do it easily. So can you. Unfortunately, cruise mode is common practice for too many Christ-followers, and I want that to change. I’m hoping you do too.
Followers of Jesus can be spiritually empty yet appear as though nothing is wrong—and some are great actors.
Over the course of my own spiritual journey, I’ve become very aware that if I don’t connect with God on a regular basis, I run out of passion and become spiritually empty. Just like the gas in my son’s car, my spiritual life drains more quickly (and more frequently) than I anticipate. And it’s not a pretty sight.
When I’m spiritually empty, my life sputters. Things feel different. Not good different—bad different. I’m shallow, confused, and anxious. Again, I can pretend to be full and fool others, but my emptiness is embarrassingly apparent to me. When my needle is nearing the red, there are some obvious warning signs:
» I’m more selfish with my time.
» I’m impatient.
» I lack compassion for those who are hurting.
» I’m more vulnerable to temptation.
» I begin to act like I deserve certain things.
» I’m short with people.
» I’m disobedient.
» I feel distant from God.
» I’m cynical.
» I find it more difficult to make good decisions.
» My insecurities are more prevalent.
» I begin to look to others to fill voids that I know only God can fill.
» I’m critical—in speech as well as thought.
And that’s only a partial list (after all, this is a short book). I realize those symptoms aren’t attractive. And I’m aware that this isn’t what Jesus meant when He called me to be the light of the world
(Matthew 5:14). I would even understand if you closed the book and thought, Yikes! This guy is a follower of Christ, and he acts like that? But I’m betting you won’t stop reading, because my guess is that if you’re really honest, your list probably looks similar to mine. Am I right?
How do you act when you’re spiritually empty? Have you ever spent time reflecting on how being disconnected from God impacts you? If not, it’s a great exercise, and I encourage you to do it so you can become aware of what happens when you’re nearing empty.
Become aware of what happens when you’re nearing empty.
For example, you might have abnormal anger in your life and not be aware that it’s connected to your spiritual emptiness. You uncharacteristically snap at your kids, you’re less patient with your coworkers, or you lean too heavily on the horn while driving. All of a sudden, everyone on the road is an idiot, and you’re the poster child for the National Association of Good Drivers. Yeah, right! You know what’s happening? You’re living on E.
Perhaps your emptiness translates into a passion for food. Evening comes and you ransack the cup-boards looking for salty or sugary treats. Then, halfway through a gallon of ice cream, you realize you’re not eating out of physical hunger—you’re eating because you’re bored, tired, annoyed, hurting, stressed, anxious, worried, or desperate. Again, you’re spiritually empty.
Or maybe you’re the type who goes shopping when your spiritual tank is in the red. The money’s not in your wallet, but credit cards are—four of them! Three hours, six stores, and two hundred dollars later, you’re on a spending high, but inside you’re as barren as when you started. Empty.
Though your symptoms may be different from those of others, spiritual emptiness is universal—yes, even for the people filling up our churches. So many of my Christian friends have confessed that when they aren’t filled up spiritually, the pressures of life begin to squeeze into their souls and occupy space that God once filled. They are overflowing with these pressures rather than with the presence of God. Can you relate to this feeling at all?
I had experienced emptiness so many times that I finally decided to take some radical actions. I went public. I admitted it. First, I confessed my emptiness to close friends. And much to my surprise, they didn’t reject me; instead, they passionately identified. I was blown away! I had always thought I was alone in my recurring emptiness. But once I found the courage to talk about it, I realized I was not alone. Then, not only did I converse about it, I began to preach on it. When I was truthful