Saying Goodbye to Your Angel Animals: Finding Comfort after Losing Your Pet
By Alan Anderson and Linda Anderson
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Alan Anderson
Allen and Linda Anderson are speakers and authors of a series of twelve books about the spiritual relationships between people and animals. Their mission is to help people discover and benefit from the miraculous powers of animals. In 1996 they co-founded the Angel Animals Network to increase love and respect for all life through the power of story. In 2004 Allen and Linda Anderson were recipients of a Certificate of Commendation from Governor Tim Pawlenty in recognition of their contributions as authors in the state of Minnesota. In 2007 their book Rescued: Saving Animals from Disaster won the American Society of Journalists and Authors Outstanding Book award. Allen and Linda's work has been featured on NPR, the Washington Post, USA Today, NBC's Today show, The Montel Williams Show, ABC Nightly News, Cat Fancy, Dog Fancy, national wire services, London Sunday Times, BBC Radio, Beliefnet, ivillage, Guideposts, and other national, regional, and international media and news outlets. The Andersons both teach writing at The Loft Literary Center in Minneapolis. They share their home with a dog, two cats, and a cockatiel. They donate a portion of revenue from their projects to animal shelters and animal-welfare organizations and speak at fundraisers. You are welcome to visit Allen and Linda's website at www.angelanimals.net and send them stories and letters about your experiences with animals. At the website you may enter new contests for upcoming books and request a subscription to the free email newsletter, Angel Animals Story of the Week, featuring an inspiring story each week.
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Saying Goodbye to Your Angel Animals - Alan Anderson
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INTRODUCTION
Friends at the Rainbow Bridge
Oh! Friend, who gave and comforted, who knew
So overwell the want of heart and mind,
Where may I turn for solace now, or find
Relief from this unceasing loss of you?
— Theodosia Garrison, The Closed Door
Bottom line: It hurts like crazy. And hardly anybody understands. Family, friends, co-workers sympathized. For a while. But they expected that you would be over it by now. Maybe they found a day or even a week of grieving to be acceptable. But after all, this was only a pet. Why are you still moping around? Why don’t you get another one? Why don’t you get a life?
So you ingest their words or their silent disapproval like vials of poison to your self-esteem. You wonder if they could be right. Are you a hopeless, codependent, overly romantic, anthropomorphizing weakling? Why do you mourn the loss of your animal companion more than any other loss in your life? How can this bereavement cause such emptiness, grayness, and sheer torture? You feel foolish. You are embarrassed. You don’t want to admit the magnitude, intensity, or tenacity of your pain. You are tempted to suck it in, shove it under, seal it over.
You yearn for a gentle paw to touch your cheek, a sweet chirping to greet each day, an exercise buddy to pad along beside you, or penetrating eyes with childlike innocence to watch your every movement — just one more time.
Despite the lack of understanding from others, you realize that the life and death of your animal companion must not — will not — be forgotten. The brilliant light that illuminated the darkest corners of your life has to be honored. You have lost a way of living as well as a dear friend. And it may be one of the most debilitating losses you have ever experienced.
Besides, you are a person who gives credit where credit is due. You long to acknowledge that an animal companion brought love, joy, comfort, tolerance, respect, balance, companionship, and meaning to your life in ways that are unique, admirable, and worthy of remembering.
Now, you are ready to read this book.
YOUR PARTNERS IN GRIEVING
We are Allen and Linda Anderson, authors of books about the spiritual connection between people and animals. We are a married couple who have been blessed with two human children and many furry family members. Over the twenty-five years of our marriage, we have gone through the losses of Prana, Feisty, Mugsy, Taylor, and Sparkle. We have buried them, scattered their ashes, held memorial services, missed them, and mourned them. We have grieved with our children and each other. We have wondered if the hole that was left when our animal companions died would ever be filled. We have walked through the valley of the shadow of death into the sunlight once again.
In our work with the Angel Animals Network, which we founded in 1996 to increase love and respect for all life through the power of story, we have received thousands of stories from readers who have struggled to find their way out of the maze of sadness that confused them after a pet died. From their experiences and our own, we have fashioned a kind of framework for your grieving and healing. Grief is messy, so we are describing for you the process of organic grieving. It allows you to relax into the knowledge that grief isn’t organized. It has its own natural cycles and timetable. As you read through the chapters, empathize with the stories of others, and do the exercises and meditations, your grieving will take on new meaning. You will have the opportunity to transform into a more spiritually self-aware person and, in time, feel happiness again. Our hope is that you will emerge from bereavement as one who looks at life through the clear, bright eyes of love.
YOU HAVE HISTORY
We once did a radio interview during which a caller telephoned the station with a story about a parrot who had recently been left at an animal shelter. The parrot sat at the front desk with staff members and volunteers, who were busily processing adoptions. Throughout the shelter, the bird’s voice was heard wailing plaintively, What went wrong? What went wrong?
This bird asked an age-old question. Throughout history, human beings have turned to ritual, prayer, and commemoration to deal with their grief when a pet died and to figure out what went wrong. Ancient people’s memorial practices helped them to mourn. Egyptians mummified their pets with the same chemicals and in the same ways as they did humans. The grieving family members shaved their eyebrows when a pet died and buried the animal in the family crypt. Persians, as well as people of other ancient cultures, established pet cemeteries for their companion animals. Native Americans shared their dwellings with and welcomed animals into their tribes. They called upon animal spirits during their vision quests.
Like golden threads, animals have always been woven into the tapestry of humans’ lives. For many, especially children, the loss of a pet is a first and profound experience with death’s mysterious presence. An animal’s passing evokes questions about the significance of the animal-human relationship, the afterlife, the soul, and God. Your longing to find answers, explanations, and consolation may bring you to a spiritual turning point. An animal’s death can cause you to feel doubt, disbelief, and disconnection. Whirlwinds of anger and denial may compound your grief and cut you off from normal avenues of community and religious solace. When others don’t understand that grief for your devoted animal friend is as real and painful as any other kind of grief, you may find yourself feeling even more isolated and alone.
YOU HAVE FRIENDS WHO UNDERSTAND
This book is designed to serve as a friend who knows how you feel, doesn’t judge you, and wants to help you allow grief to follow its natural course into acceptance. We have chosen to express the process of grieving, reconciliation, and healing by using symbolic imagery of the legendary Rainbow Bridge. Some truly magnanimous and wise person wrote a story that has since comforted millions of us after our animal companions have died. No one knows who the author is. Yet we all feel grateful for the story’s messages of hope.
THE RAINBOW BRIDGE
Just this side of heaven is a place called the Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies who has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to the Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends, so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and contented, except for one small thing: they miss someone very special to them who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. The bright eyes are intent; the eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to break away from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together...
RAINBOWS AND BRIDGES
The first three chapters of this book will help you to recognize the primary colors of the Rainbow Bridge. These colors of blue, red, and yellow represent sadness, remembrance, and spiritual growth. Observing and nourishing yourself with the rainbow’s colors will allow you to become peaceful. You will begin to understand how the loss of your animal companion has affected your life physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.
The next four chapters offer bridges that will transport you through the mourning process. These bridges symbolize a metaphoric range from the practical to the mystical. They are bridges that commemorate and honor the life and death of your pet. Like the Rainbow Bridge, they take you and your animal companion to a place where you can be reunited spiritually. Throughout this book, you will read about the experiences of people who have seen the rainbow’s colors and crossed the bridges before you. Their stories offer knowledge, comfort, and wisdom.
One such story is Joanne Nobrega’s. When her children were little, Joanne found what she calls the dog of my heart
. Her family adopted a fluffy, energetic, nipping, and challenging five-monthold yellow Lab named Brandy. This dog saw Joanne’s children through their growing-up years. When Joanne’s sons left home, Brandy remained to fill her and her husband’s empty nest.
After fifteen years of Brandy’s love and friendship, the dog developed kidney disease. One sad Thanksgiving Day, Joanne and her husband stayed home to cuddle on the floor with their dying pet, stroking his velvet ears, and praying for the strength to say goodbye to him. On the following Saturday, the family lit a candle, formed a circle around Brandy, and loved him as the dog passed away.
Brandy’s death unbalanced Joanne like nothing she had ever experienced. She began to wonder if the weight of her grief was normal. At last she had to, as she put it, lean into the pain instead of fighting it any longer
.
Joanne’s sadness that year was deepened by an exceptionally wet, gray winter. She looked out her window at the places where Brandy used to play and prayed to see a rainbow. Thinking of the Rainbow Bridge story, she believed that such a rainbow would be the sign she needed to reassure her that Brandy was now part of the essence of life.
For days after her initial prayer, Joanne continued to stand at her bay window and search the skies in hope of finding a rainbow. An absence of the answer to her prayer only added to her pain.
Joanne writes:
One especially dreary afternoon I picked up a set of pictures that had just been