The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively

Written by Gary Chapman

Narrated by Chris Fabry

Struggling to connect with your teen?

Never before has raising teens been so perplexing. If you are wondering what on earth you’re doing wrong, you’re not alone. But there is hope. By learning to meaningfully express love amid your teen’s many changes, you can stay connected, maintain influence, and help them grow into a healthy adult.
Dr. Gary Chapman will help you:
  • Understand today’s teenagers • Identify your teen’s primary love language • Discover how to best express love to your teen • Address your teen’s need for independence and responsibility • Respond with love and wisdom when your teen fails
  Raising teens is tough, but with Dr. Chapman’s expert advice and practical examples, you can do it — and do it well.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Oasis Audio
• Release date: Jun 21, 2016
• ISBN: 9781621886228

Gary Chapman

El doctor Gary Chapman es el autor del libro y de la serie Los cinco lenguajes del amor, número 1 en ventas en inglés según el New York Times. Con más de 35 años de experiencia como pastor y consejero matrimonial, ha viajado por todo el mundo impartiendo seminarios. Gary Chapman (PhD) is the author of the New York Times best-selling The Five Love Languages book and series. With more than thirty-five years of pastoring and marriage counseling experience, he travels the world presenting seminars to couples who want to improve their marriage relationship. He is host of the weekly radio program Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, which airs on more than 250 stations.

Reviews for The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers

[deusvitae · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

An exploration of the five love language premise--physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service--but this time in terms of children.The authors do well at shifting the premise from its original grounding in marital relationships and encourages parents to recognize their children's primary love language. The authors point out the challenges which come with children who are often unable to properly verbally express whatever they are feeling and often just get frustrated, rebellious, or act out in other ways; the burden of responsibility is much higher on the parents in this circumstance. The authors also apply the love languages and their lessons to handling discipline and fostering instruction. They also work to give encouragement to single parents; for married parents, importance is placed on making sure each spouse knows the other's love language and acts accordingly, providing a good model for children.Beneficial for parents.

[themadturtle · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Although I had heard people talk about the five love languages, this is the first book on them that I've ever read. I enjoyed the book and learning about each love language and thinking about our boys and trying to determine what their love language might be. I thought the last couple of chapters drifted a little off topic, though.

[Carolyn · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Great guide for parents of teens as it covers a broad spectrum of issues.

[silva_44 · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

While I found a lot of the stories about parents and their children very tragic, I enjoyed learning about how to love children in a way that will be most meaningful to them. I especially enjoyed the chapter about teaching children how to deal with their anger in an appropriate way.

[imperfectcj · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

I find this book useful in helping me to recognize and practice different ways of showing love (and of recognizing when someone else is trying to show their love for me). It didn't blow my mind, perhaps because I already knew a bit about the concept from a session I attended at a homeschooling conference. It was decent, though. I was a bit disappointed there wasn't a simple quiz to take to identify my children's love languages. This is a bit funny to me, since I tend to ridicule books with quizzes in them. I've so far not been able to identify anyone's love language, but I have expanded my repertoire of ways in which I express my love.

[Andres Zuniga · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Excelente libro para ayudarnos a entender a nuestros hijos y también para aprender a mostrarles el amor de una manera en que a ellos lo necesitan. Lo tendré que volver a leer varias veces más!!!

[operalover · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

It helps me learn how to express love to my teen in words and in action

[nmarun-1 · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Both my wife and I read the Five Languages of Love book and that definitely benefited us. We both read this one too and agree that it has provided deep insights into loving our child more.The tips that the authors provide regarding discovering your child's primary love language are elegantly simple. They just make complete sense. Also, the pointers on 'what do to if [x] is your child's primary love language', at the end of the chapters, are quite enlightening.The chapter on disciplining was fascinating as well. It says 'ask "What my child needs when he misbehaves?" instead of "What should I do to correct his behavior?"' - neat, real neat. It goes on to say that disciplining should be done only when the child's love tank is full, else the child will develop a resentful mindset.Fathers (myself included) - apparently there's a 11-yr study that says that children grow up much better when we are involved with them during their childhood days.While reading the book I was trying to identify the primary love language of our (almost) 4yr old. But the authors say that below 5, children expect to be loved in all of the 5 ways and that's very true of our kid."Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't matter. What you do with your children will matter forever." - absolutely true (especially for the corporate employees).

[pammela-428474 · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Aware that each one of my sons were 3 indiviual people, with their own unique makeup, I selected this book as a desire to understand their love language and how I was communicating my love to them. This book is an easy read and an excellent help to parents. As you learn the 5 love languages you can adapt to each child as necessary. Which is very important if you want to communicate your love in the language that they understand best. I learned that there are no cookie-cutter-molds for love; one 'love shoe' does NOT fit all sizes! A must read for any parent or caretaker of children. I gained a wealth of knowledge from this book.

[catherinebird-1 · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

I read this book before reading the 5 Love languages for couples. I love how in depth the book goes to help us identify what our children's love language is. I agree that it is hard to determine the love language of a child under a certain age, however, I have been able to figure out that our 3 year old's love language is definitely touch. While I'm sure he has awhile before we can have an idea of his secondary, it is apparent that he is a toucher. I didn't realize that we all receive love differently until I read this book. It helped me pinpoint which love languages my older children feel loved. It should have been a given since they both enjoy quality time, but I didn't realize that is how they feel loved. I plan on reading this for a second time because it is that great!

[alekee_1 · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is a must have book for all parents. Each child, as we all know, is different. This book is a good reminder of the ways we show our Children "Love". It is not the same for each Child in the family. There are some really good examples shown in the book, and it is a good reminder.Sometimes we try so hard to be doing the right things and we fail to understand that we need to do things differently. I recommend reading this book for some great insights, and applying them in real life!“Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products orservices mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention iton my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personallyand believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordancewith the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning theUse of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

[sneezybee23 · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

In The 5 Love Languages of Children, Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell apply Chapman's popular concept of the five love languages to the parent-child relationship. Each of the five love languages is explained and examples are given of how to use (and how not to use) a child's love language. Parents are encouraged to love their children unconditionally, which is sometimes not as easy as one would assume it to be, and to successfully express that love to a child.I found The 5 Love Languages of Children to be insightful and challenging. The explanations of each language were informative, but the real life examples were what I found to be most helpful. There is a full chapter as well as a love language “game” at the end dedicated to help parents correctly identify how a child gives and receives love. At times, the book was a bit overwhelming to me as it felt like I have to do everything perfectly or I'm going to really mess my child up. I know that was not the authors' intention and maybe not everyone will get that feeling, but that's how it was for me.The 5 Love Languages of Children is geared for children above age five. My child is only two which is a bit young for her love language to be obvious. The authors say five is usually the minimum age before a child's love language can be determined as it's prone to fluctuate in the early years. Therefore, a lot of the information was good, but not completely relevant to me. The main points I was able to take away from the book were: unconditional love is the desire of a child's heart, whether or not a child's love needs are fulfilled will affect them positively or negatively, and it's important to practice all five love languages at this point. I plan to keep The 5 Love Languages of Children and will probably revisit it in a few years.Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."

[serbook · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Good read for any parent. Opens your eye to the necessity of continuously showing love to your child in the way that the child is sensitive to. Eg some children feel loved when you hug them, others prefer you to spend quality time with them

[jubercat · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

This book has been extremely helpful in parenting my daughter. A friend recommended this, and while I didn't relate to the religious content of the book, it didn't overwhelm the rest. I wasn't surprised to learn that "Quality Time" was my daughter's preferred love language. What is helpful are the suggestions for creative ways to achieve it, especially for working and busy parents who might otherwise try to use gifts or verbal acknowledgment (as we did) to replace what the child actually craves.

[D J · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Lots of good wisdom. I'm sure there are thing or two one might not completely agree but overall, lots of good insight and practical advices. Probably will listen to it again.

[herebedragons · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

For some reason, the premise of this book just didn't grab my attention. It seemed overly contrived to me, and there are loads of better books out there about meeting children's needs. Or, you could just try spending time with your kids and finding out that way.

[Michelle Beresford · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Too much emphasis on owning a car, but brill otherwise.

[mama_kanga · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

This is the first "Love Languages" book that I have read. It gave great insight into children and the ways they express and understand love. It also provided ideas on positive parenting and discipline with love.

[gingermama-1 · Rating: 2 out of 5 stars]

Some bits were interesting and relevant, but for the most part the author seems to be completely out of touch with both teens AND their parents. For example, suggesting that we read the lyrics of the music our kids listen to. It would have been fine if he'd stopped right there, but to go on to say there's no way parents would be able to understand the recorded version is absurd.

[flying_monkeys_1 · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

Rating: 3 of 5

Solid overview of the 5 Love Languages as they apply to teenagers. I would've liked to read more specific examples and longer lists of ideas. The profile at the end of the book was most helpful in confirming my teenager's primary and secondary languages.

Note: This was more religious than I was expecting but it wasn't a big deal to overlook the scripture and section about "God."