Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

Written by Emily Nagoski and Nicholas Boulton

Narrated by Emily Nagoski

A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Simon & Schuster Audio
• Release date: Mar 2, 2021
• ISBN: 9781797119267

Emily Nagoski

Emily Nagoski is Wellness Education Director and Lecturer at Smith College, where she teaches Women’s Sexuality. She has a PhD in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a master’s degree (also from IU) in counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She has taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education. She is the author of three guides for Ian Kerner’s GoodInBed.com, including the Guide to Female Orgasm, and she writes the popular sex blog, TheDirtyNormal.com. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller Come As You Are.

Reviews for Come As You Are

[Laura Van den Bossche · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Compulsary reading for everyone who likes sex, wants sex and has all the questions. Sex ED fails to tell us true stories about our bodies, desires and partners. This book makes up for a lot.

I thought I was fairly aware about society´s fucked up cultural messages, but this book really opened my eyes to deeper levels of conditioning.

Great audiobook as well!

[Shweta Dayal · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Everything you need to know about one’s sexuality is served on a beautiful platter.
The explanations and stories amazed me.
A must read for everyone.

[Martha · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Every woman needs to read or listen to this book! We are all normal and we shouldn’t be made to feel like we aren’t. One of my favorite lines in the book is to “stop comparing your experiences with your expectations.” In a world of social media likes and the art of comparing yourself to everyone else this book will help you get out of your own head and self doubt. And bonus might help you have better orgasms ?

[Christina Trivitt · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This book is EVERYTHING. I think ALL woman and even men should read it. There are things in this book that I didn’t even know I NEEDED to know!!!

[Kaitlin Staggs · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Beautifully informative. If you have ever felt abnormal in societies view of non male folks in terms of sexuality, listen to this.

If you’re happy with your sex life but wonder if you could be better informed about the psychology behind it and how to make it even better, listen to this.

[Bruce Ket'ah · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

a book mainly for women but that everyone should read/listen. I loved it and found very informative

[george asl · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Wooow! I just finished this book and Im so grateful. Thank you Emily! You changed my life! God bless you. Everyone should read - listen to this book! Really life changing. ♥️♥️♥️ P.S. I'm a man

[Amy McKay · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

A must read for every woman (and the men who love them)!

[Kass Ward · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Fantastic book, made me cry several times. Good for yourself and I think important to get your partner into as well.

[Ryan · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

stop whatever it is that you’re doing and read this book. It is not only insightful and entertaining but reassuring. I am not a woman but I have important women in my lives and this book is for everyone. However, if you know anyone that is struggling with her sexuality and the context of their expectations of what it all to be or just to understand better how it is that we sexually function please buy this book.

[Karen C · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Life Changing
This audio book is really an affirmation to the uniqueness of a woman's body, every woman's body. Just listen and read and the listen and read again!!!

[ckq6mn8wsc · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Words cannot describe the feeling I have right now. I am grateful for this book, this app

[Jay · Rating: 2 out of 5 stars]

If you are a cishet woman (who is probably white) this book is for you. If you're queer in any way, especially gender queer, don't bother. The author did not write it with you in mind. Look elsewhere. Please. I can't stress that enough. Do not waste your time.

[Elizabeth Cook · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Good information for all people with vulvas. Longer than it needed to be but easy to skip parts of it.

[mike · Rating: 2 out of 5 stars]

This was disappointing. A whole lot of "You are ok just as you are", and very little "Here's what you can do about it as a person with, or partner of, a 'responsive desire' type.

[Amanda · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

While there were a few informative moments, this was entirely too long. If it had been edited down to only saying something once instead of 2, 3, or 10 times, the book could have been cut in half. If it weren't so repetitive, I would have enjoyed it more. By the hallways mark, I couldn't wait for it to be over.

[yhr5k7725k · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Omg !!! So so amazing. Beautifully written, easy to understand, good science referencing. I’ve read a lot of self help/psychology books and even this helped me fill in gaps.

[Zuzana Šimková · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Thank you for this book. I have learned a lot about myself, which is helping me to improve my intimate life. I have also learned a lot of important information about sex and desire that help me in my psychological practice.

[Cianne · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Beautiful. Honest. Compassionate. Challenging. Motivating. Inspiring & just all out fun. I LOVED THIS BOOK!!!

[Jessica Ashley Steele · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is a phenomenal book and I HIGHLY recommend it to all open -minded, open-hearted people who are ready to learn about the science behind women’s sexuality. Dr. Emily Nagoski has a clever, witty sense of humer, and she infuses jokes, metaphors, and relatable language as if you were having a safe, comfortable conversation with a close friend. This is my second time reading this book, and each time I reread it, I learn more and more. Truly wonderful.

[Clarissa Zaruk · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Amazing read and beautifully narrated to ?✨ thank you for writing this!

[Jhony Osorio · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

For what it is, this books is good. what i learned after reading the book is Sex doesn’t only depend on if you’re turned on or not, also depends on external factors.

[Robert Teel · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

A must read for both women and MEN! Great insight to the complexity of a females sexuality and how it all works. Loved it!

[Carla Perry Bonillo · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Game Changing! Will definitely be buying the physical copy to annotate! ???

[Natasha ng'ambi · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

I learned so much from this book. Every single woman should read this book.

[Amy Karpan · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Fabulous book. You are not broken!!! What an excellent book, full of science, facts, and great narrating. Way to dispel myths and culture. Thank you so very much! It has helped me tremendously!!!

[Megan Cox · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Excellent listening. Very useful for all women and probably straight men as well.

[Gabriela Tudor · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

just AMAZING! A MUST read for any woman out there!

[Lorena Morton · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Great book, great narration too. Strongly recommended for EVERYONE (not only people with a vagina). Amazing and scientific description of all the things we were taught about sexuality that are now proven wrong.

[Tony Barrett · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Wise and generous book.

I would rather not write anything else in this review but this shitty program demands more verbiage.