'Yes, we do all share a bed': the truth of living as a polyamorous throuple
I’m in a throuple - a three person relationship - and sometimes I have to remind myself that a lot of people think that’s weird. Because for us, after almost four years as a throuple and two of living together, it’s just our lives. Our relationship isn’t wildly different to anyone else’s. We spend boring weeknights watching Netflix, we go to IKEA and get annoyed with each other in the Marketplace section we disagree on who should take the bins out, we text each other to get milk, we go on holidays together and to family events. But we are the only throuple we know. We don’t have throuple friends. And we’re also the only throuple most people have ever met. So I guess, technically speaking, it is kind of weird.
Alternative relationship configurations have been in the news a lot lately, thanks to shows like Channel 4’s The Couple Next Door, Netflix’s You, Me, Her or to high profile relationships like the one between Una Healy, David Haye and Sian Osborne. Dating app Feeld, which turns 10 this year, have seen a 400% increase in searches for ‘polyamory’ and ‘ethical non-monogamy’ among women, and ‘threesome’ remains one of their most commonly listed desires on profiles on the app, where users write a bio explaining to potential matches what they’re looking for. The app's co-founder and CEO, Ana Kirova, was inspired to launch the app when her and her partner decided to open-up their own relationship.
My own throuple came about more or less by accident - like a lot of relationships. Paul and I had been together for seven years when we joined Feeld, an app aimed at couples and
