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When his wife, Diane, died two years ago, Stanley Goldstein was shattered. "I couldn't even go in the house," Goldstein told me. I thought he meant it figuratively, but Goldstein went on to say he literally could not bring himself to enter the Palmdale home he had shared with his wife, who'd been suffering from Parkinson's. "I was living in a Suburban," he said. "I mean, here I had this ...
Maxine Shelley, 82, who lives alone at her home in Valley Village, is photographed with her 2 dogs, Ruby Mae, left, a 7- year-old bichon frise, and Rylee Mae, a 7- year-old teacup shih tzu.

When his wife, Diane, died two years ago, Stanley Goldstein was shattered.

"I couldn't even go in the house," Goldstein told me.

I thought he meant it figuratively, but Goldstein went on to say he literally could not bring himself to enter the Palmdale home he had shared with his wife, who'd been suffering from Parkinson's.

"I was living in a Suburban," he said. "I mean, here I had this 3,000-square-foot house, and I'm living in the parking lot of the supermarket."

Goldstein, 74, a former teacher, recovered enough to seek some companionship. He met another woman, but she soon became a stranger to herself.

"Alzheimer's," he said. "It came on real quick."

About a year ago, at a coffee shop, Goldstein shared his despair with

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