I’m leading a wellbeing webinar and, although Stacie* is a small square on my screen, her frustration fills the room. ‘I cycle to work, I eat healthily, I get enough sleep. So why am I not happy? What else do I have to do?!’ she asks.
Stacie, like many of us, feels she is doing everything right. On paper, she is ticking all the wellbeing boxes – and yet she’s not feeling any better for it. What’s going wrong?
‘Nothing’, says Helen Russell, bestselling author and happiness researcher. ‘Many people nowadays assume that if they’re not happy, they must be broken in some way, or doing life wrong.’
In my own clinical experience, it is the pursuit of happiness itself that is the problem. Happiness and wellness are not the same, but we can get so caught up in our happiness to-do lists that we lose sight of what
