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Work-Life Balance Has to Include Friendship

“We’re able to be our fully human, vulnerable, type-A selves with a group of people who get us in a way that your partner or your kids may not.”
Source: WENJIA TANG

Each installment of The Friendship Files features a conversation between The Atlantic’s Julie Beck and two or more friends, exploring the history and significance of their relationship.

This week she talks with friends who created a “Working Moms With Big Jobs” support group to help navigate the challenges of parenting while maintaining a demanding career. They use the tools of corporate life—agendas, surveys, Google Docs—to help themselves map out their lives and make time for each other.

The Friends:

Maia Heyck-Merlin, 43, the CEO and founder of The Together Group, an education-training organization, who lives in Washington, D.C.
Lindsay Kruse, 44, a consultant who lives in Princeton, New Jersey
Mary Clare Reilley, 44, the vice president of marketing for Iona College, who lives in New Rochelle, New York

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.


Julie Beck: How did you meet and form your working-moms group?

Mary Clare and I went to college together, but we didn’t know each other then. We met at our first jobs at [the consulting firm] Ernst & Young, and we stayed in touch [after

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