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Some Men Share Their Secrets Only in Therapy

And they would probably benefit from confiding in more people.
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When patients come into the therapist Lori Gottlieb’s office and start off a session by saying “I’ve never told anyone else this before,” male and female patients, Gottlieb has found, often mean very different things. When her female patients say it, they usually mean they’ve never told anyone but their “mother, sister, and best friend”—in other words, “they’ve already told between one and three people, but to mild. To me it feels like, was your big secret?”)

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