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Can A Child Be Raised Free Of Gender Stereotypes? This Family Tried

When Jessica and Royce James learned that they were going to have a daughter, they decided to raise her in as gender-neutral a way as possible. It was harder than they could have imagined.
Royce, Isis and Jessica James at NPR.

Expectant parents often daydream about their children's future. What sports will they play in school? Will they become musicians, or scientists? Royce and Jessica James had big dreams "I remember working at the Boys and Girls Club near our college and seeing the children, watching how they played and how they were able to play based on what they were wearing. And thinking, 'Those girls could also be up at the top of that playscape, swinging upside down, if they weren't wearing sandals and sundresses.'" Jessica and Royce decided they weren't going to let clothing — or any other gender norms — limit their child's potential. So they said no to dresses given to them by family members and friends. They took the same approach with toys. "We're not going to be getting her baby dolls and Barbies. We want her to have open-ended free play toys," she says. This week on Hidden Brain, the story of a couple and the challenges they faced in trying to shield their child from gender stereotypes. And we meet their daughter, now sixteen years old, to hear her take on how she was raised.

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