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Disagree better by asking great questions

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Feb 6, 2024

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It’s tempting to tell people what they should do. It feels efficient, and it makes us feel helpful and wise. When we replace telling with asking, we can do something more powerful and, ultimately, more satisfying: Help people illuminate what’s important and generate effective solutions to problems.
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Feb 6, 2024

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Conflict resolution insights for vital personal and business relationships from professional mediator and conflict resolution teacher Dr. Tammy Lenski. Podcast formerly called The Space Between.

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Conflict resolution activities: A mental trick for getting out of our own way by Disagree better
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A loving letter to my mediation clients by Disagree better
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Overcoming resistance: Work with people, not on them by Disagree better
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Making peace with the conflict groan zone by Disagree better
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