Fatimah Gilliam is an author, lawyer, sought-after speaker, consultant, and founder of The Azara Group, a consulting firm that provides diversity and inclusion, leadership development, negotiation, and strategy consulting services to Fortune 500 corporations, senior executives leading billion-dollar businesses, and industry thought leaders. Her groundbreaking book, Race Rules: What Your Black Friend Won't Tell You, is a practical manual of the unwritten rules that can help readers navigate today’s racially polarized world. In short, it’s a ‘how-to’ manual for white people to be less racially offensive; enabling them to develop stronger and more respectful cross-racial friendships and professional relationships with people of color. Today, Fatimah joins us as “white America’s Black friend” to tell us what others won’t say to our faces nor share about perspectives of color on white behaviors, choices, and interactions. She shares deep, transformative insights from her book, which seeks to open the door to perspectives of color so white people can learn, make better choices, take different actions, and evolve with a diversifying society in the 21st century. This conversation is an excellent source of well-informed and hard-hitting advice for those looking to move beyond performative allyship and live their non-racist values, rather than just talk about them. As we discuss, this is ideal for anyone who wants to bring the unconscious forward to consciousness, so they can take new actions every day that will directly and powerfully address and combat racism both in our own lives and behaviors, and in the world we live in. Tune in to learn more!   Key Highlights From This Episode: •   What inspired Fatimah to write this book and what her intentions are for it. [04:31] •   Ways that being a light-skinned Black woman has impacted her view of racism. [07:57] •   Defining racism and why Fatimah chooses to focus on impact rather than intent. [09:53] •   The ‘how-to’ guide she offers and how Race Rules differs from other books on racism. [13:37] •   How racism is distinct from prejudice with the key ingredient being power. [18:42] •   Fatimah's “Top 5” of 31 race rules and insight into her three-step Bedrock Race Rule. [20:15] •   Othering, marginalization, and how to ensure the language you use isn’t offensive and   harmful. [28:00] •   Rules for discussing race for white people who see themselves as anti-racist allies. [33:59] •   Understanding the relationship between defensiveness and exceptionalism. [41:14] •   A favorite passage of Fatimah’s from Race Rules, where to get the book, parting advice, and more. [46:08]   For More Information: Race Rules: What Your Black Friend Won’t Tell You The Azara Group Fatimah Gilliam on LinkedIn Fatimah Gilliam on Instagram Fatimah Gilliam on X ———————   Ready to Start Getting the Respect and Recognition You Deserve? JOIN THE 16-WEEK AMAZING CAREER PROJECT COURSE WITH KATHY STARTING FEBRUARY 1ST! I’m very excited to share that we’ve opened the enrollment window of the Winter 2024 session of my 16-week Amazing Career Project course! This session — which starts February 1st – teaches professional women the 16 most essential steps to building a more rewarding, joyful, and successful career, with the respect and recognition you deserve.   Through the four months of the course, you’ll get: – 16 jammed-packed instructional videos – 16 weekly live group coaching calls with me – 16 tailored homework assignments to move you forward fast – An amazing online support network of members to help you – My hand-picked collection of premier resources – PLUS: Great lifetime discounts to my private coaching programs and events AND: $1000 off the full price plus 7 great bonuses Truly, it’s a fantastic investment in you and your career and there is nothing to lose and so much to gain. Join me this Winter! Visit amazingcareerproject.com for more info and see you February 1st!   ——————— Order Kathy’s book The Most Power