If you are the non-autistic/neurotypical partner and would like to join Sarah Swenson, LMFT and I for our upcoming 4 week workshop "I Love My Partner and Still Struggle to Imagine a Healthy Future Together" you can ⁠click here⁠ to register. Our meetings will be held at 7:30pm EST on 1/23, 1/30, 2/6, 2/13. The investment for this amazing workshop is only $297 and all participants will get 3 bonuses:

The digital version of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards ($11 value)
The digital version of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Card Workbook ($12.97 value)
Free access to the 27 presentations from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference ($97 value)


Also, if you are interested in attending the mixed neurotype support group I co-facilitate with Jodi Carlton, the cost is only $25 per session. We meet monthly on the first Wednesday of the month and we offer 2 groups. One meets at 12:30pm EST and the other at 6:30pm EST. You can ⁠click here⁠ to register for the upcoming group.

Thank you for being part of the Neurodiverse Love community!
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During this episode, Enoch shares the way he describes the experiences he had and the feelings and emotions he experienced in his 21 year neurodiverse marriage. He shares the word pictures he has created to help others understand some of the ways he felt before his marriage ended in divorce.
The word pictures described are:
1) The Onion of Loneliness-there are 3 dimensions/layers to this word picture. They include the loneliness with your partner because you have very different needs; the loneliness when friends and family don't believe you or understand what you are experiencing; and the loneliness when you feel hopeless that things can't or won't ever change.
2) Cup-vs-Barrel/Pond-vs-Stream-each partner has differing needs and different thresholds for feeling satiated in regards to the quality and quantity of connection. Each partner also has different ways in which time is navigated.
3) Wedding Day as a Finish Line-vs-Starting Line. One partner may feel that the wedding day was the end goal and the other may feel it was the beginning of a new adventure with lots of opportunities for connection ahead. In addition, one partner may seek stability and routine in the marriage, while the other is looking to grow and have lots of new experiences together.
4) The Egg of Marriage addresses masking and how others may see a very different version of the neurodivergent partner, as they only see the shell of the egg, not what is inside. In addition, each partner may have very different executive function skills and this may impact the appearance of the egg yolk which can't be seen by people outside the relationship.

You can contact Enoch at ifgodwhy@gmail.com or check out his blog and resources at: www.ifgodwhy.com/ND

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