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Pathological Demand Avoidance | CP142

Pathological Demand Avoidance | CP142

FromConnected Parenting


Pathological Demand Avoidance | CP142

FromConnected Parenting

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Length:
19 minutes
Released:
Dec 15, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode

Description

In today's episode of my podcast, I delve into a fascinating topic that I often refer to as 'gladiator kids.' Have you ever wondered why some children constantly respond with 'no,' 'why,' or 'not now'? What's behind this strong-willed defiance? Is it just their temperament, or could it be something more, like ADHD or being on the spectrum? Intriguingly, there's a concept known as pathological demand avoidance, which I believe is a common thread among many of these children.What exactly is pathological demand avoidance, and how does it manifest in kids? Could your child be showing signs of it? Let's unravel these mysteries together. Tune in to gain insights and perhaps, understand your little gladiator a bit better!Meet Jennifer KolariJennifer Kolari is the host of the “Connected Parenting” weekly podcast and the co-host of “The Mental Health Comedy” podcast. Kolari is a frequent guest on Nationwide morning shows and podcasts in th US and Canada. Her advice can also be found in many Canadian and US magazines such as; Today’s Parent, Parents Magazine and Canadian Family.Kolari’s powerful parenting model is based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behavior and build children’s emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers.Jennifer’s wisdom, quick wit and down to earth style help parents navigate modern-day parenting problems, offering real-life exampes as well as practical and effective tools and strategies.Her highly entertaining, inspiring workshops are shared with warmth and humour, making her a crowd-pleasing speaker with schools, medical professionals, corporations and agencies throughout North America, Europe and Asia.One of the nation’s leading parenting experts, Jennifer Kolari, is a highly sought- after international speaker and the founder of Connected Parenting. A child and family therapist with a busy practice based in San Diego and Toronto, Kolari is also the author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise A Great Kid (Penguin Group USA and Penguin Canada, 2009) and You’re Ruining My Life! (But Not Really): Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting (Penguin Canada, 2011).
Released:
Dec 15, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode

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