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11: STOP Being A Pleaser, It’s Not Helping!
11: STOP Being A Pleaser, It’s Not Helping!
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Length:
32 minutes
Released:
Jul 4, 2019
Format:
Podcast episode
Description
In this episode, Paul and Stacey will take on one of the most common and pervasive relationship killers, and it's called pleasing. This isn't just about love relationships, because when a person is a pleaser in any of their relationships, they are most likely pleasing in many of their relationships, and that actually causes way more damage than good.
Paul and Stacey will talk extensively about it and share some very effective tools that we can use to stop being pleasers and embrace the relationship development practices that will help us achieve true happiness in all our relationships.
Key Points Discussed:
The difference between giving and pleasing (01:02)
Giving feels good but pleasing will always feel not so great (02:33)
A culture conditioned to be pleasers (04:32)
The emotional guidance scale (05:47)
The result of pleasing is resentment (07:52)
The dangers of demand parenting (10:28)
How to authentically show up in any situation (16:24)
The blame-sides-compromise dynamic is very broken (20:48)
Pleasing doesn’t actually create happiness (27:51)
How to stop being a pleaser (30:44)
Additional Resources:
The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
Ask and It Is Given by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks
You can find this episode and more at:
RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen
Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.
If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!
Paul and Stacey will talk extensively about it and share some very effective tools that we can use to stop being pleasers and embrace the relationship development practices that will help us achieve true happiness in all our relationships.
Key Points Discussed:
The difference between giving and pleasing (01:02)
Giving feels good but pleasing will always feel not so great (02:33)
A culture conditioned to be pleasers (04:32)
The emotional guidance scale (05:47)
The result of pleasing is resentment (07:52)
The dangers of demand parenting (10:28)
How to authentically show up in any situation (16:24)
The blame-sides-compromise dynamic is very broken (20:48)
Pleasing doesn’t actually create happiness (27:51)
How to stop being a pleaser (30:44)
Additional Resources:
The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019
Ask and It Is Given by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks
You can find this episode and more at:
RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen
Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts.
If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!
Released:
Jul 4, 2019
Format:
Podcast episode
Titles in the series (53)
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