Today's episode begins with a warning to all men not to mess around with their house keeper. The cautionary tale of Arnold Schwarzenegger starts off this week's episode as Jar and Tina laugh about how parental fatigue gives you about 30 mins of tv before your involuntary coma begins! 3 great emails from 3 very brave people on the show this week.

A stressed out dad gets in touch about trying to motivate his two teenage sons. The "Mary Black Approach" is born! Tina and Jarlath suggest setting up a rewarding motivator or goal for your child to work towards. Obviously the real drive has to come from within so Tina recommends making absolutely sure that your child wants to pursue this interest. How can we set about initialising a goal that will help them develop a habit of practicing and then mastering that skill.

What is okay to demand from your child in terms of household chores and household respect? Does their age matter? What if they share their time between houses. The family meetings is the first port of call. Lay out the ground rules of what is the expected desired behaviour. Being very careful not to punish everything is key. Out of control adults are quickly disempowered. Jarlath bravely mentions Tina’s behaviour around her period and how himself and Mikey tend to manage it.

What do you do when your child is throwing everything and breaking precious things about the house on a daily basis. Tina suggests that you need to redirect the child while giving them zero reaction for the projectiles. Instead provide the kid with loads of throwing opportunities throughout the day with balls. Praise their ability for throwing. Encourage them to throw the ball and have fun with the ball. Chat about what can be thrown and what can’t be thrown.

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