Doing the Dishes

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Doing the Dishes

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9 minutes

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May 23, 2023

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In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sharing spaces and chores when partners have dramatically different preferences. Listen to the rest of episode 58 at patreon.com/howtolove.

Released:

May 23, 2023

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Podcast episode

Titles in the series (60)

Join Rebecca Shern and her husband, Joshua Fields Millburn from The Minimalists, for the most honest conversations you'll hear about unconventional relationships, sex, and parenting.

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Lust Isn't Love: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sex with other people, relationship structure, how a narrow definition of monogamy leads to constriction, being tripped up by expectations, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
10 min listen
How We Met: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss how they met, how Josh went to a party to get to know Bex better, the details of their first date, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
17 min listen
Parenting Lessons from Childhood: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss their very different childhoods, how people moralize their experiences, the foundational importance of love throughout life, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
7 min listen
Letting Go of Negative Relationships: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss past and present relationships, seeing each other afresh, the dangers of living in the past, the difference between attention and awareness, how they appreciate challenging seasons, and... by How to Love
16 min listen
Chasing Ideal: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Thanksgiving, toxic relationships, creating misery by searching for things to do, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
19 min listen
Wisdom from Assholery: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Bex's birthday month, their reactions to assholery, having tough conversations, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
17 min listen
Reprogramming the Programming: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the role of self-love in intimacy, finding perfection, noticing how we've been programmed to be dissatisfied with ourselves, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
7 min listen
Raising Intuitive Eaters: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss what intuitive eating means, the importance of high-nutrient density foods, avoiding processed foods, non-coercive behaviors around eating, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
11 min listen
Sexy Time: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss various aspects of sex, Josh's dream involving pornstar Lisa Ann, sex toys, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
18 min listen
Relationship Happiness: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss uncovering happiness instead of seeking it, the necessity of solitude, the importance of intelligence, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
10 min listen
Weekend at Bernie's Relationships: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss divorce, recognizing the endpoint of a relationship, cheating, recreational argument, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
23 min listen
New Romantic Relationships: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the ill-conceived ideas that people have about new relationships and why those ideas block love. Listen to the rest of episode 50 at . by How to Love
7 min listen
Fake Parents: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss "only-child criticism," why needing validation and acceptance is a prison, what "real" parenting is, letting go of the impulse to have a mom-tribe, and being disinterested in... by How to Love
9 min listen
Is Not Wanting Kids Selfish?: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about parental selfishness, the idea of "your body, your choice," the real price of having kids, and how an evolution of beliefs can lead to incompatibility in a relationship. Listen to full... by How to Love
20 min listen
The Problem with Intellect: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss decision making between logical and intuitive people, whether persuasion is coercion with a nicer name, being respectful, the wisdom of intuition, and the limitations of intellectual... by How to Love
6 min listen
In-Laws Are Offended: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about how being a new parent inevitably changes other relationships, why expectations are tied to being offended, having too much of a good thing, asking for space, and approaching difficult... by How to Love
19 min listen
Superficial Love: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why it's perfectly fine to be superficial, why superficiality isn't wrong or bad, and why a superficial person doesn't necessarily lack of depth. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
20 min listen
Marital Felatio: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss finding enjoyment during sex even when you're stuck in your head; the empowering and disempowering stories we tell ourselves about sex, self-esteem, and relationships; and exploring... by How to Love
14 min listen
Hell Yeah or No: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the Myer's Briggs personality assessment and its limitations, introversion and extroversion in relationships, future-focused people, present-focused people, parental compersion, and being... by How to Love
41 min listen
Difficult People: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why they prefer to spend very little time with other people, how they prioritize showing up for others as "the best version of themselves," the best time to discuss expectations, and when... by How to Love
23 min listen
The Misery of Dependence: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss untangling feelings, freedom, and love. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
11 min listen
Not in the Mood: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about viewing sex as a way to bring pleasure to your partner even when you don't desire it yourself, removing expectations and entitlement around sex, approaching sex with a playful... by How to Love
8 min listen
What Love Isn't: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss being in love, being loving, seeing things as they are instead of how we wish they were, how chemistry can get muddled by hormonal birth control, and how love is never defective,... by How to Love
12 min listen
Ending the Relationship: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about mediocre relationships, Bex's personality, what people want in a relationship, and why it's important to understand what you're willing to tolerate. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
21 min listen
Balancing Time Together: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss spending time together versus time alone, the fallacy of "the one," allowing our partner's autonomy, working through insecurity, and defining expectations. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
10 min listen
Learning to Love Again: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the song "Learning to Love Again" and why it unexpectedly made Bex cry during their recording session. Then they share how they both have learned to love again throughout their... by How to Love
8 min listen
Relationship Food: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the simple foods they eat most frequently, how humans have made eating unnecessarily complex, midset shifts to avoid boredom even when on a highly restrictive diet, seeking deep... by How to Love
10 min listen
Enduring Passion: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss what passion is; the enormous differences between commitment, obligation, and devotion; and how our tolerance of suffering may change. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
11 min listen
Monogamish: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the boundaries of their "monogamish" relationship, the primacy of honesty, why the obligation can kill chemisty, balancing novelty with security, and the openhearted negotiation of... by How to Love
7 min listen
Corrosive Relationships: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss ending a relationship mindfully, the downside of compassion in a divorce, graduating from past relationships, and the inevitability of conflict in corrosive relationships, and they... by How to Love
19 min listen

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