The Best Sex Advice Ever

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The Best Sex Advice Ever

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Sep 15, 2022

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In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss having sex with a germaphobe, unreasonable sex requirements, and establishing boundaries that encourage sexual spontaneity. Plus Bex shares a sex PSA from her college boyfriend's father.

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Sep 15, 2022

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Titles in the series (60)

Join Rebecca Shern and her husband, Joshua Fields Millburn from The Minimalists, for the most honest conversations you'll hear about unconventional relationships, sex, and parenting.

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The Problem with Intellect: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss decision making between logical and intuitive people, whether persuasion is coercion with a nicer name, being respectful, the wisdom of intuition, and the limitations of intellectual... by How to Love
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17 min listen
Wisdom from Assholery: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Bex's birthday month, their reactions to assholery, having tough conversations, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
17 min listen
Parenting Lessons from Childhood: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss their very different childhoods, how people moralize their experiences, the foundational importance of love throughout life, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
7 min listen
Lust Isn't Love: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sex with other people, relationship structure, how a narrow definition of monogamy leads to constriction, being tripped up by expectations, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
10 min listen
Chasing Ideal: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Thanksgiving, toxic relationships, creating misery by searching for things to do, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
19 min listen
Reunion Sex: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sexual awkwardness, the desire for novelty, the effects of monogamy on testosterone levels, and why reunion sex is often the best. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
4 min listen
Letting Go of Negative Relationships: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss past and present relationships, seeing each other afresh, the dangers of living in the past, the difference between attention and awareness, how they appreciate challenging seasons, and... by How to Love
16 min listen
Weekend at Bernie's Relationships: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss divorce, recognizing the endpoint of a relationship, cheating, recreational argument, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
23 min listen
What Love Isn't: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss being in love, being loving, seeing things as they are instead of how we wish they were, how chemistry can get muddled by hormonal birth control, and how love is never defective,... by How to Love
12 min listen
Relationship Happiness: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss uncovering happiness instead of seeking it, the necessity of solitude, the importance of intelligence, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
10 min listen
Tinder Profile of the Month: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua stumble upon a hilarious dating profile. They discuss why it's important to present a truthful but light-hearted version of ourselves when dating new people. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
6 min listen
Raising Intuitive Eaters: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss what intuitive eating means, the importance of high-nutrient density foods, avoiding processed foods, non-coercive behaviors around eating, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
11 min listen
Sexy Time: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss various aspects of sex, Josh's dream involving pornstar Lisa Ann, sex toys, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
18 min listen
Difficult People: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why they prefer to spend very little time with other people, how they prioritize showing up for others as "the best version of themselves," the best time to discuss expectations, and when... by How to Love
23 min listen
Is Not Wanting Kids Selfish?: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about parental selfishness, the idea of "your body, your choice," the real price of having kids, and how an evolution of beliefs can lead to incompatibility in a relationship. Listen to full... by How to Love
20 min listen
In-Laws Are Offended: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about how being a new parent inevitably changes other relationships, why expectations are tied to being offended, having too much of a good thing, asking for space, and approaching difficult... by How to Love
19 min listen
Reprogramming the Programming: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the role of self-love in intimacy, finding perfection, noticing how we've been programmed to be dissatisfied with ourselves, and more. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
7 min listen
Balancing Time Together: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss spending time together versus time alone, the fallacy of "the one," allowing our partner's autonomy, working through insecurity, and defining expectations. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
10 min listen
Not in the Mood: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about viewing sex as a way to bring pleasure to your partner even when you don't desire it yourself, removing expectations and entitlement around sex, approaching sex with a playful... by How to Love
8 min listen
Foot Fetish: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the fulfillment of fantasies; the conflation of "love," "like," and "lust"; and loving someone even if they can't fulfill your personal fantasy. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
6 min listen
Sex Distance: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss embracing physical distance to increase attraction, how close proximity decreases physical interest, why redefining sex can drive sexual tension, and their willingness to renegotiate... by How to Love
8 min listen
Time Apart: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss keeping their connection alive after seven years, being comfortable with your partner, and actively working to avoid complacency so that you don't take your partner for granted. Listen to... by How to Love
10 min listen
Hell Yeah or No: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the Myer's Briggs personality assessment and its limitations, introversion and extroversion in relationships, future-focused people, present-focused people, parental compersion, and being... by How to Love
41 min listen
Ending the Relationship: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about mediocre relationships, Bex's personality, what people want in a relationship, and why it's important to understand what you're willing to tolerate. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
21 min listen
Enduring Passion: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss what passion is; the enormous differences between commitment, obligation, and devotion; and how our tolerance of suffering may change. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
11 min listen
Superficial Love: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why it's perfectly fine to be superficial, why superficiality isn't wrong or bad, and why a superficial person doesn't necessarily lack of depth. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
20 min listen
Fear as a Motivator: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss moving from fear to love; they also discuss why acceptance, control, and safety are the primary aspects of a fear-based mindset. Listen to full episodes at . by How to Love
11 min listen
Marital Felatio: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss finding enjoyment during sex even when you're stuck in your head; the empowering and disempowering stories we tell ourselves about sex, self-esteem, and relationships; and exploring... by How to Love
14 min listen
Fake Parents: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss "only-child criticism," why needing validation and acceptance is a prison, what "real" parenting is, letting go of the impulse to have a mom-tribe, and being disinterested in... by How to Love
9 min listen

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Scrolling Is the New Smoking: In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss how glowing screens interrupt real-life connections, the staggering statistics regarding texting during sex, and the tech hygiene they personally use to keep phones from interrupting... by How to Love
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The Best Sex Advice Ever

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