In this episode, I interview Kevin Patterson, author of Love’s Not Color Blind and Educator with Unf*ck Your Polyamory. We talk about compassion, freedom, and control in non-monogamy, polyamorous weddings, race and non-monogamous spaces, pitfalls in long-term polyamory, communication skills, and more!    Ads:  - Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands - Enjoy porn you can learn from. Use code XOSCHOLARS and get a seven-day free trial at https://afterglow.ubpages.com/xoscholars/   Kevin:  https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels/   If you want a more on polyamory and ethical non monogamy, check out these past episodes:  -08 with Dirty Lola  - 177 Open Smarter with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova - 199 and 200 with Jessica Esfandiary and Lauren Urbiztondo - 137 and 214 with Kate Loree - 227 with Irene Morning   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show.