How do you explain being in a long term loving relationship when you’ve not really had one yet? In her latest novel, The Cassandra Complex, Holly Smale attempts just that.

She tells us about accidentally and then deliberately writing an autistic character, how being an autistic woman has left her vulnerable, and how being diagnosed later in life has affected her dating life.

We also get tips from our listeners on how to find love and make sure they’re right for you.

Presented by Robyn Steward and Jamie Knight. Produced by Drew Hyndman and Edited by Clare Fordham.

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