TW: sexual assault  
Sexuality doula Ev'Yan Whitney joins Gabrielle to discuss pleasure and sensuality in this f%cking sex obsessed yet sex negative world. Ev'Yan explains asexuality and what pleasure means to them, apart from just sex. The two discuss the pressure to have an orgasm every f%cking time you have sex, and Ev'Yan explains what afterplay is; something just as important as foreplay! They touch on some causes of sexual shame in our society, and accessing pleasure outside of the sexual realm. Lastly, Ev'Yan offers advice for those out there who are ready to get in touch with their sensuality!  
Books mentioned in this episode:    


Unfuck Your Intimacy: Using Science for Better Relationships, Sex, and Dating by Dr. Faith G. Harper  


Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.  


Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen   


The Politics of Trauma: Somatics, Healing, and Social Justice by Staci Haines  


Be sure to visit evyanwhitney.com to learn more. Plus, check out their podcast Sensual Self, wherever you listen to podcasts, and their book by the same name. You can also find Ev'Yan on Instagram @evyan.whitney. 

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