You don’t see it until you see it. You can’t unsee once you see it.
One day, all of a sudden, I just saw it. My thoughts were, "hey this is a problem."
"Something just isn’t right here."
 
Before this, I made excuses. I justified everything.
He’s not feeling well today.
He had a rough childhood.
He is stressed at work.
He didn’t have siblings.
The kids were being loud and frustrating.
Our son could have been more obedient.
I could have been more understanding.
I could have said that better.
I should have known that would upset him.
Anything and everything except for - he should not talk to us this way. His words are mean and hurtful. His tone is not okay as my partner for life. He is NOT a loving and compassionate person.
Why were those not the things I was thinking and saying? I misdirected the fault for what was going on for years, many years. Laying the blame everywhere except where it truly belonged. Until one day….