Many college graduates enter "the real world” with grand expectations. They have high hopes of landing a stable job with a good salary, forming a strong community of friends, and maybe even meeting a special someone along the way. And why should they not have great expectations for their lives? They have been told to dream big and shoot for the stars—and they should. But sometimes, what older and wiser adults fail to mention is that the good job with benefits, the close friends, and the life partner all take time—and a lot of work—to find, Rebecca Stow says. Stow is the author of a new book, “Unbothered: What I Learned the Hard Way About College, Job Hunting, & How to Make Your 20s Suck (A Little) Less.” She writes in the first chapter, “I’m all about encouraging people to embrace their passions, but there has to be more realism in the process.” Stow spent her first six years after college moving from job to job, searching for a career she truly enjoyed, and that would allow her to live on more than rice and beans. Amid the rejection letters from employers and the challenge of finding her place in the post-college world, Stow says, she started to learn how to become “Unbothered,” how to keep hope alive when circumstances looked anything but hopeful—and never play the victim. With wit and charm, Stow recalls the lessons she learned the hard way, and offers advice to other 20-somethings who are also trying to navigate life's challenges. Stow joins the “Problematic Women” podcast to share her personal story, and offer some wisdom to other young people who also hope to become “Unbothered.” Enjoy the show! Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.