What beliefs were instilled in you that you had to unlearn in your divorce? This week’s podcast guest, Paulette Rigo, describes what it is like to come to terms with living the life that you've chosen, not the life that others want for you. As a dancer, Paulette was taught that the show must go on. The idea that you should never let others see you sweat communicated another message to her: stay silent.  After confronting these harmful internalized beliefs, Paulette began creating a life that was congruent with her desires. She is a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, Trauma Informed Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist, Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Host and Author. Her new book, Better Divorce Blueprint, and its accompanying workbook, along with the No Matter What card deck, Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast, Best Life Ever Private Island Retreats and Better Divorce Academy, are all tools she created and utilizes to help her clients create an optimal divorce experience and the new life chapter they deserve and desire. It is Paulette’s personal 8.5 year litigated and appellant experience and expertise that makes her so skilled in allowing her clients to stay in control, stay out of court (if possible), and maintain their dignity. She helps them create the right team of professionals from the early stage of contemplation, to the necessary final steps of healing using practical tools, inspiration and a proven wellness model.   Learn more about Paulette by visiting her websites at betterdivorceacademy.com and bettercareerproject.com   Be sure to check out her book, Better Divorce Blueprint and the accompanying workbook.   And for our listeners, Paulette is offering a free digital version of the NO Matter What deck of 52 inspirational cards.   Follow Paulette on Instagram @betterdivorceacademy, Twitter @paulettegloria, and Facebook @paulettegloriarigo