if people who are raw and “UGLY” or messy or open or authentic online, and that is off-putting to you - check in on why - is the reason valid or is the hesitation because you’re so used to seeing perfectionism and unrealistic expectations in your feed?I know people very personally who share very misleading versions of their lives online which genuinely makes me jealous even though I see them and know the reality behind it doesn’t actually make me feel that way. It almost doest matter that we know its fake. It’s like the cousin with the box analogy I used yesterday - If I didn’t know the flashy toy existed I wouldn’t care but damn my box looks like shit all of a sudden even though this box has been my favorite box in all the land for a very long time. We all have our shiny toy/box metaphor. It may be bodies that don’t look like yours - which for me - following fitness influencers and half naked confident humans with atypical bodies has changed my take on what is genuinely beautiful and I have always been a very inclusive lover but damn sexiness changes when you see it in various forms. Plus it’s helped me know the power my curves hold - which is an episode for. Different day.But maybe following fitness influencers that are both similar and different than you can show you bodies like yours and smaller and larger than yours can do hard things and so can yours if you start small but show up consistently. Also - this is no shame to anyone who enjoys filters or photoshop - it’s just saying - as soon as we recognize how inauthentic the things we’re comparing our lives to are - the better we are at setting our own standards and expectations for ourselves in a way that promotes long term happiness and sustainable success. If social media isn’t motivating you - change your feed to be more motivating. And I know I’ve said this a million times - but this time I’ve backed it with science and substantial reasoning so ha!  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.