How do we make sure that we’re on the same page with our midwife?
Begin with open communication before you even hire your midwife
Make sure that your preferences of how your midwife will operate and interact match with what she is willing to provide
Be certain that YOU know what You want in a care provider
Are the two parties in agreement?
Feel comfortable asking questions as you come from a place of initial agreement an understanding
Be careful adding additional social checkmarks to your list of needs.  Your midwife does not have to be your bestie
Do not expect your midwife to bear the weight of connection.  If you want connection, you must be open and vulnerable.
 
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