Many of us struggle with the demands of parenting. Our response to feeling overwhelmed can be to try and control our kids’ behavior. But guest Sue Donnellan challenges us to lessen our parenting load by giving our children more control, more responsibility and ultimately more respect. While this might go against our instincts, when we take ownership of our own behavior, rather than controlling our kids', we will become happier parents with children able to learn from their mistakes.
 
Sue Donnellan is the recent author of “Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: The Non-Conformist Playbook to Raising Happy Kids Without Public Meltdowns, Power Struggles, & Punishments”. With the surprise arrival of her triplets, Sue had suddenly found herself parenting 4 young kids while also running her own business. She walks us through the moment that radically changed her parenting style, and how she transformed herself into a "reformed yeller". Over the years, Sue's journey of discovery has turned her into a parenting specialist who is known for restoring harmony to homes.
 
Please note that because of the title of our guest’s book on this episode, there is a lot of colorful language used throughout the podcast. While it’s an episode about parenting, you may want to tune in to this one, away from little ears!
 
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Topics
(3:44) Welcome and speed round questions.
(8:49) What is parenting without giving a f^ck?
(11:53) Sues’ parenting journey and why she wrote the book.
(16:36) Why do parents struggle to let go of control?
(19:00) What is The Magic Mantra?
(22:32) Choice architecture in parenting.
(26:04) Dealing with parental guilt.
(29:44) What is 360 decision making?
(35:54) The 4 Fs of parenting.
(39:53) What music would Sue take to a desert island?
(45:09) Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim about parenting.
 
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Links
Sue Donnellan’s book: “Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: The Non-Conformist Playbook to Raising Happy Kids Without Public Meltdowns, Power Struggles, & Punishments”: https://amzn.to/3wR0Llw 
Follow Sue Donnellan on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter with the handle @AskMomParenting
The Zeigarnik Effect: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zeigarnik_effect
Sesil Pir, Episode 281, Why Leaders Need To Care For People, Not Manage Them: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/care-for-people-not-manage-them/ 
Behavioral Grooves Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/behavioralgrooves
 
Musical Links
Sade “Smooth Operator”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4TYv2PhG89A 
Sade “Cherish The Day”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKhfoKOTwZY