This week, Vanessa is joined by Katie Mingle from 99% Invisible. They explore this week’s Reddit question written by a woman in a 10 year relationship who’s experiencing feelings for another man. To find an answer, Vanessa and Katie call Katie’s mother, romance novelist Pam Mingle. Together, they revisit a question from earlier in this season: whether love at first sight exists. Pam, Katie and Vanessa consider the difference between romantic love and motherly love, the failures of monogamy, and whether Pam will write another romance novel.Send us your own romance advice questions for future episodes on our website at https://www.hotandbotheredrompod.com/advice  Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.