#26 The Loneliness of Losing Yourself

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#26 The Loneliness of Losing Yourself

FromThe Lonely Hour

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Jun 14, 2017

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Abandon Me author and former heroin addict and dominatrix Melissa Febos discusses what it’s like to lose your identity to addiction and obsession—and host Julia Bainbridge signs off with a meditation on living in that loneliness.

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Jun 14, 2017

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An exploration of loneliness and solitude

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#21 “When Can I Say I’ll Be Alone Forever?”: Comedian and writer Aimée Lutkin hasn’t dated in a while, and wonders if she ever will again. by The Lonely Hour
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#25 Weird in a World That’s Not: Jennifer Romolini, author of the new memoir and career guide, Weird in a World That's Not, opens her book with this: “I am not supposed to be here. I spent the first 28 years of my life as a fuckup and a failure. I failed and I failed and I failed.” And ... by The Lonely Hour
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#26 The Loneliness of Losing Yourself

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