Are you having the sex you desire, or has sex lost something over time - or perhaps seemed lacking to begin with? Ever wonder what actually happens in sex therapy?   Whether you’re having sex with a long-time partner(s) or having hookups, you have what Ian Kerner, PhD LFMT calls a sex script, both your own and one you co-create with your partner(s). And gaining awareness about your scripts can go a long way.   A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:   Why Ian says to all of his sex therapy patients, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (which is also the title of his new book!) What a sex scripts entails How David and Kate, a couple in their mid-30s, found their way to pleasurable sex by unpacking their personal histories How Jonathan and Chris, a couple in their 40s, saved their relationship and sex life by cultivating a “rec-relational” style Dr. Megan Fleming’s tips for finding an ideal therapist Automatically save 15% on your first Promescent order here: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ   Check out Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks    Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner     Submit a question for August or Dr. Megan: augustmclaughlin.com/contact   Preorder With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships, by Jamila Dawson and August McLaughlin https://www.chicagoreviewpress.com/with-pleasure-products-9781641605038.php?page_id=21