Sophie Saint Thomas, journalist and author of Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection, grew up in a sex-positive household and now embraces witchcraft and science. And she has a lot to say about cultivating the sex and love life you desire. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: How a penis candle spell she performed panned out What "love spells" in general are really about A powerful way to use tarot cards (that doesn't involve fortune-telling) Why monogamy and polyamory aren't your only relationship choices and how to choose your best format Sophie's take on post-breakup revenge Dr. Megan and August's thoughts for a listener whose demisexual boyfriend doesn’t desire sex very often   Follow Sophie on social media: Twitter: @TheBowieCat  Instagram: @TheBowieCat   Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com   Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner     Have you checked out Dr. Megan’s Pleasure Picks for May yet? greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks