Addiction runs rampant... for most of us. Myself included.  Especially when we're facing tough things: anxiety, pain, loneliness, vulnerability, identity, significance. During a stressful time we are trying to avoid the pain... so we move towards the pleasure of distraction, entertainment, alcohol, gossip, food, video games, cigarettes...   God has specific insight into what to do on a consistent basis to bring us to PEACE.   Specifically, I'm thinking about this scripture... Psalms 37:7 "Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him". That makes me what to squirm and run away and pretend I didn't read it and that it's not in the Bible. If I'm really honest my response is "but I'm too important to wait" or "there's too much to do to wait" or "waiting is not going to help anything" Waiting feels like facing the tiger that's chasing me. The truth is when I wait, when I'm patient, when I am still... I discover over and over again that it's a paper tiger.   Is meditation new age / non-Christian? I talk about that... and how to ensure your meditation is Christian. I share what I do to be still and be present in intimacy and OUTside the bedroom to impact my pleasure in intimacy. Also, when "Receiving" in intimacy is too hard, there are other ways that are easier at times and bring us together in beautiful ways.   A few resources I mentioned: The Craving Mind by Judson Brewer MD, PhD Deep Work by Cal Newport International House of Prayer - 24-hr worship streamed online Live a Life Worthy of Your Calling (the song starts at 1:18:15) Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex by Belah Rose   --   I'd like to invite you to be on my email list. I send emails a couple times a month and I'd like to offer you some free resources for you... For wives, you're welcome to get "8 Tips to Stay Present" in the bedroom: www.delightyourmarriage.com/present For husbands, you're invited to get the "7 Blocks to Her Libido" which clarifies what may be keeping her from desiring intimacy in your marriage. www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks