Why Shame and Guilt Doesn't Work

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Why Shame and Guilt Doesn't Work

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Jan 25, 2021

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What is repentance? Why shame and guilt doesn't work with kids or in life and a better approach to bring about repentance, obedience, and true heart change.

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Jan 25, 2021

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Real men with authentic faith. Legacy Dads is a community of Christian men focusing on issues such as marriage, parenting, and leadership. We equip men who are trying to balance faith, our modern lives, and leading our families to a lasting legacy.

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