Spare Parts: Believe Them The First Time

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Spare Parts: Believe Them The First Time

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May 31, 2016

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Should you ever work for your rapist? What if you already are? Dr. Brittney Cooper's on hand to help out a listener with that question. Plus all the bloody details on period sex, and a call for your Unscrewed book recommendations — all in another jam-packed quickiesode. For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy

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May 31, 2016

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Unscrewing up the sexual culture. Host Jaclyn Friedman and a rotating cast of whipsmart guests untangle the politics and culture of sex, and help out real-world sex advice-seekers.

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