Spare Parts: Look For The Helpers

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Spare Parts: Look For The Helpers

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How do we get through tragedy and horror? Jaclyn takes Mr. Rogers' advice and looks for the helpers in Orlando and the Stanford rape case, in order to find some hope. Then she's joined by Tristan Taormino to help out a listener whose friends are definitely not helping when it comes to her polyamorous relationship. For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy

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Jun 14, 2016

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Unscrewing up the sexual culture. Host Jaclyn Friedman and a rotating cast of whipsmart guests untangle the politics and culture of sex, and help out real-world sex advice-seekers.

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