On episode 84 of American Sex Podcast, you’re a fly on the wall during a candid conversation between Dirty Lola, Jimanekia Eborn & Sunny Megatron. What started as a twitter debate opened the door to a much larger, systemic issue in both the sex ed community and the world at large. We examine what happens when our well-meaning feminist activism leads way to paternalism, savior complexes, and intersectionality that’s more of a buzzword than something that’s widely understood. We touch on performative allyship vs being an accomplice, when it’s appropriate to speak up on issues affecting marginalized communities and when “stay in your lane” applies, how anti-blackness rears its head even in the most liberal communities, and more. Take a deep breath, listeners, there’s a lot to unpack in this episode.   Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 84 Links Jimanekia Eborn Website: https://traumaqueen.love/ Jimanekia EbornInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jimanekia/ Jimanekia Eborn Kink Kit The Art of Healing Box: http://bit.ly/HealingQueen Dirty Lola Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dirtylola/ Dirty Lola Twitter https://twitter.com/dirtylola?lang=en To book Lola for workshops, bachelorette parties or her infamously funny and educational Sex Ed A Go-Go send requests to Lola@SexEdAGoGo.com Dirty Lola’s “Dirty Loladex” aka Twitter list of marginalized Sex Educators you should be following https://twitter.com/DirtyLola/lists/the-dirty-loladex/members Dirty Lola's tweet thread mentioned in this discussion  https://twitter.com/DirtyLola/status/1113078814932963329 Jimanekia's tweet thread mentioned in this discussion https://twitter.com/Jimanekia/status/1113552797478219776 Sunny's tweet thread mentioned in this discussion https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron/status/1112847630076268544 Episode 70 of American Sex Podcast about Sex Toys http://sunnymegatron.com/how-to-choose-the-best-sex-toy-podcast/ Our upcoming “Proud American Fucker” merch design: https://www.instagram.com/p/BvwaWfIhuwl/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features! We’re sooooo close!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 84 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get your FREE birth control prescription delivered to your door from Simple Health -- go to http://simplehealth.com/SUNNY  or enter the code SUNNY at checkout   CalExotics Instagram giveaway (ends 4/26/2018) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvsyuR8hc4R/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed