Great sex and mind-blowing kink must include clear communication and thorough negotiation. Sometimes, however, the process can seem impersonal and not very sexy. In this episode, Midori teaches us surefire techniques for laying groundwork before a sexy scene that doesn’t feel like negotiation at all. She explains her signature engaged collaborative consent model, gives specific steps for flirtatious negotiation, and offers tips for cultivating “Queen of the Starfish” moments. She also busts myths about what aftercare should entail, explains the brain chemistry behind sub drop and top drop, introduces us to BYOA, and details how to get the aftercare you want whether you’re submissive or dominant. Yes, Doms need aftercare too! This is a must listen for everyone no matter where you are on the kinky spectrum. Sunny & Ken also prepare for their holiday hiatus and a life-changing adventure.  ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 72 Links Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Midori Newsletter https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter Midori class/event calendar http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes Midori website http://www.FHP-Inc.com Midori's intensives www.ForteFemme.com www.RopeDojo.com Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 72 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info LOLA - This episode contains a special American Sex Podcast discount code for 40% your subscription for period & sex supplies delivered to your door from http://mylola.com.  “Unlike other major brands, LOLA products are 100% natural and easy to feel good about. No BS, mystery fibers, or doubts about what’s going in your body. Plus, LOLA products come in a simple, customizable subscription. LOLA will deliver exactly what you need, exactly when you need it” Enter to win a We-Vibe Discover Gift Box & other goodies valued at $350 from babeland.com by filling out our Pleasure Podcasts listener survey. Winner will be randomly drawn the last week of December. Good luck! http://bit.ly/americansexsurvey Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed